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I have been in a relationship with my current bf since last December. We both get along pretty well. I guess I keep getting these lingering thoughts lately...

This past march I declared my love for him, he did not return the favor. he only said that he likes me alot...I figured it would eventually come out and not to make a big deal....but it has been 9 months since then! I know he does care for me and every now and then I tell him that I love him and he doesnt say anything..just a hug or he chuckles.

Its weird because he is friends with his ex of 3 years (their relationship ended in 03) and when he hangs up with her he tells her that he loves her or 'love u 2' stuff (which I find to be weird but whatever.) I see txt between them on his phn of him saying he misses her/loves her ect. I know nothing is going on (she just got married) but I guess I am just jealous that he throws that around. Their relationship is more of a best friends type, but I guess I am obsessing in feeling that he cares for her more than me (which is a sad thought I guess):(

I dont want to be immature about this whole thing....and I know there is not a time frame for saying 'I love you'..but I guess I am just starting to get scared that I may feel more for him that he does I! I know that he is not the most emotional person and I have to always be the one to push him to do stuff. like I call him, ask him what he is doing (planning dates), being intimate (hugging, kissing, even sex!)

What even more confusing is that back last jan he txt me saying that he thinks he is falling and that is the closest I ever got to anything from him on that subject:confused:

Its almost like the longer/closer we are getting the more distant he gets?? ...i dunno...I feel like I want to bring up to him why he is this way, but I dont want to look like a crazy girl saying 'why dont you love me??!"...lol

There is more I can touch on but I feel this note will get too long! I guess I just need some advice...I dont really have much friends I can talk to about this unfortunately :(
[QUOTE=counting12am;3831900]I have been in a relationship with my current bf since last December. We both get along pretty well. I guess I keep getting these lingering thoughts lately...

This past march I declared my love for him, he did not return the favor. he only said that he likes me alot...I figured it would eventually come out and not to make a big deal....but it has been 9 months since then! I know he does care for me and every now and then I tell him that I love him and he doesnt say anything..just a hug or he chuckles.

Its weird because he is friends with his ex of 3 years (their relationship ended in 03) and when he hangs up with her he tells her that he loves her or 'love u 2' stuff (which I find to be weird but whatever.) I see txt between them on his phn of him saying he misses her/loves her ect. I know nothing is going on (she just got married) but I guess I am just jealous that he throws that around. Their relationship is more of a best friends type, but I guess I am obsessing in feeling that he cares for her more than me (which is a sad thought I guess):(

I dont want to be immature about this whole thing....and I know there is not a time frame for saying 'I love you'..but I guess I am just starting to get scared that I may feel more for him that he does I! I know that he is not the most emotional person and I have to always be the one to push him to do stuff. like I call him, ask him what he is doing (planning dates), being intimate (hugging, kissing, even sex!)

What even more confusing is that back last jan he txt me saying that he thinks he is falling and that is the closest I ever got to anything from him on that subject:confused:

Its almost like the longer/closer we are getting the more distant he gets?? ...i dunno...I feel like I want to bring up to him why he is this way, but I dont want to look like a crazy girl saying 'why dont you love me??!"...lol

There is more I can touch on but I feel this note will get too long! I guess I just need some advice...I dont really have much friends I can talk to about this unfortunately :([/QUOTE]


If you don't feel loved and after all this time he hasn't said "I love you back"... and you have to do all the initiating of everything my gut feeling tells me that perhaps this isn't the right man for you. He may be comfortable with you but not in love with you.... It must be frustrating to hear him say it with his ex without any problem but not with you. I would tell him how you feel ... exactly what you've written here and see what he says.... you couldn't have said it more perfectly.





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