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I kinda got stood up by the online guy on our second date.


I was running late so hours and hours before the date i sent him a message delaying our date by an hour. he said sure no problem.

I had to travel loads today which he knew about.

I got stuck on a black spot, traffic did not move so when I was waiting for train I was half hr away and about half hr late and asked him to meet me somewhere different nearer to me. I called him. First time we have spoken on phone.

I felt bad so to be polite I said I know you have work in the morning so if you want to do this another night then feel free...don't worry about me I've got friends somewhere in the centre of town anyway.

After humming and hahing he said ok well find out if your friends are doing something fun then maybe you should do that

Then he said he dressed up for the cocktail place we were gonna go and i said that was sad because I too had put a lot of effort into what I looked like.

Then he said alright lets meet.

He lives 15-20 mins away from where we were going to me. I live an hour away but because of extra travelling it was going to take me almost two hours.

I asked him again are you sure then he says ok we'll meet another time. He started saying how we would only have a couple hours and he would get a little uneasy towards the end because of time. ??? Excuse ???

[B]9pm.[/B]..too late to meet because he has work? Too late even though he lives round the corner?

I spent ages getting ready, bought an expensive dress, did my make up, my hair, drove for hour and got told no while standing at train station in the rain.

I was quite upset.

He said he would message me, and started talking about arranging another time, asking when I would be in town next to which I replied I couldn't tell him now but I knew I couldn't make the weekend and he agreed saying he also couldn't make the weekend, so it would have to be next week or the weekend after that.

Give me ur thoughts.

Did he just take that excuse and use it as a reason not to see me?

I know it was my fault being late, but its not like he lived far...considering I traveled so much.

Or as my male friend says:

I don't sugar coat things
He made the effort to get dressed up and was coming to meet you

Me:
At last minute when all he had to do was to travel a short distance.....he didn't because apparently 9pm is too late?

Friend says:
so maybe he didn't like u being late, maybe it genuinely was going to make it too late, maybe he doesn't like unexpected change...


Surely if a guy is into a girl, after not seeing her for three weeks, he would like to see her?
This guy obv wasn't interested in seeing me. Was it because he got annoyed with me being late or because he just isn't that interested?
YES, for pete's sake! I think you should absolutely message him first and tell him you're sorry things didn't work out but that you'd like to reschedule, and then actually be there and be on time the next time! And keep it light, don't be weird, just be normal. I still don't think he has done anything wrong and I still can't understand why this whole situation is causing you so much grief when it should be just a regular getting-to-know someone situation.

I keep reading your posts and wonder why you keep thinking he isn't interested in you? Maybe he's just shy? Maybe he's not totally sure of himself? You have said repeatedly in your posts that you like him, so quit being so afraid of telling him that you would like to see him again and that you want to talk to him. Geez, there's nothing wrong with telling a guy you're having a good time, you are enjoying their company, you want to get together again. It's OKAY to tell them those things, you're not breaking any codes by doing that! He probably doesn't know what to think about you because you're the one who keeps acting weird, and pretty soon he might just write you off just because HE doesn't know how YOU feel about HIM.

Quit making a mountain out of a molehill. Just message him and tell him you're sorry again for not being able to get together but you'd still really like to see him and give him a day/time that you know you will be able to make it there on time and go from there.
[QUOTE=Kszan;3882947]YES, for pete's sake! I think you should absolutely message him first and tell him you're sorry things didn't work out but that you'd like to reschedule, and then actually be there and be on time the next time! And keep it light, don't be weird, just be normal. I still don't think he has done anything wrong and I still can't understand why this whole situation is causing you so much grief when it should be just a regular getting-to-know someone situation. [B]It isn't causing me too much grief. I got upset last night but that was probably due to being disappointed and the combination of travelling lots and this flu that is seeming to appear![/B]

I keep reading your posts and wonder why you keep thinking he isn't interested in you? [B]Various reasons...just giving me a feeling.[/B] Maybe he's just shy? Maybe he's not totally sure of himself? You have said repeatedly in your posts that you like him, so quit being so afraid of telling him that you would like to see him again and that you want to talk to him. Geez, there's nothing wrong with telling a guy you're having a good time, you are enjoying their company, you want to get together again. [B]I've told him all of that but not heard any of it to me from him[/B] It's OKAY to tell them those things, you're not breaking any codes by doing that! He probably doesn't know what to think about you because you're the one who keeps acting weird, and pretty soon he might just write you off just because HE doesn't know how YOU feel about HIM.

Quit making a mountain out of a molehill. Just message him and tell him you're sorry again for not being able to get together but you'd still really like to see him and give him a day/time that you know you will be able to make it there on time and go from there.[B]Thanks for replying Kszan![/B] :angel:[/QUOTE]





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