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broken: I've tried to tell her she needs to have some hobbies, and develop some close female friendships. She tells me that she doesn't have money for hobbies and I can't remember her excuse for not attempting to befriend anyone new.

Her longest friend is a strange girl that doesn't like to leave her house much. My gf is upset with this girl and says shes going to stop talking to her b/c she never wants to go do anything. Her other longest friend is a guy who is in the military and got married a couple years back. She doesn't talk to him but maybe twice a year. I know she would like to have more contact with him and his wife as they are both very nice people, but he is very busy and always traveling with his job. She met a new girl that she has slowly started becoming friends with but it's going slow, I guess b/c she spends so much time with me? I don't know.

Last night one of her points of anger was that I had told her I would take her to N.O. and that she has been asking me for years to go to N.O.

While it is true that she has been asking for us to go to N.O. for a few years, and recently I did tell her I would take her, I never gave her a date or time. I believe the only thing I ever said was, "now that my friend is back in town, we can stay with him when we go down." Just an acknowledgment that we would go at some point in the future.

I never anticipated my friends putting together a "guys" trip so quickly. My friend just moved back there at the end of January!

I fully intended on taking my gf to N.O. at a later date when it would be a little less crowded and maybe more couples oriented. Now she says "well you can forget that, I will never go to N.O. with you now!" :(

This was something I felt like I needed to say to you guys to make sure you had the full story. She didn't bring this up until last night and this morning. Does it change your opinion of the matter any?

Anyway, in the years we have been together we have been to the beach countless times, Hawaii once (to visit her friend in the military), Washington, Bahamas, Colorado...all sorts of traveling. I feel like I have gone and done plenty with her to not be b*tched at about me wanting to go out of town with some friends for 1 weekend.
Hi Larrylou, I apologize if I didn't answer a question, but I'm not sure what the question was?

As I stated earlier in my posts (I thought I did?), one of my friends has cheated on his ex girlfriends several times.

The other is single, but far as I know is not a cheater. He may be a little bit misogynistic, but he's never tried to get me to break up with my gf or convince me to do anything I shouldn't. In fact, once when I asked him his opinion on a matter involving my g/f, he told me "I don't know man, I'm not the best person to ask, my opinion on women is a little jaded and biased" He wouldn't give me his opinion past that.

The last of the group is the guy we are going to stay with. He is the one I'm probably closest to, even though I haven't seen him in 3 years. I've never known him to be a cheater or anything like that.

While he was away he did fall for a someone that had borderline personality disorder and was a very bad influence on him (basically making him feel like crap all the time, cheating on him, etc) but he was finally able to see the light and break away from her. He is now back home and wants to see his friends again.

That's the basic rundown of the guys I'm going to be with.
Guys are always going to have friends who try to get them to give up their girlfriends, especially if they are single or in bad relationships. A few of my guy's friends have tried to convince him that I'm a jealous, controlling "B" and he should get rid of me. They point out other attractive women to him, implying that he could be "getting" all these other women if he only dumped me. He hasn't dumped me, he just lets them blow off and then he does what he wants, which is stay with me. He's away for the weekend as we speak, left yesterday morning and has already called me twice. And I kissed him goodbye, wished him a safe trip & good luck (he's an athlete participating in an event out of state) and went on with my day.

Your girlfriend needs to stop putting her energy into trying to manipulate you into staying home anhd put that energy into discovering why she is so clingy, insecure and controlling. And you need to go with your friends, have a great time hanging out with them, and deal with her however you choose to when you get back.

Oh, and a helpful (!) hint...turn off your phone or she will be blowing it up. Tell her you will call at such and such time, and stick to it, but no all day long dramatic phone sessions or your friends WILL be disgusted.

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