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[QUOTE=plaxmax34;3936109]
what are women supposed to do when a guy they like won't make a move? [/QUOTE]

Assume that he's just not interested and move on. Being in the post-feminist era doesn't change the fact that men are still and always will be by nature hunters and gatherers. Men enjoy getting things they want. Besides, very few women want a man who's too scared or insecure to go after the things he wants in life.

[QUOTE=plaxmax34;3936109] Is it a major turnoff if a guy won't make a move? [/QUOTE]

Yes. There are some women who will hit on and chase men, to some small degree of success, too, but most women want to be pursued, they want to know the guy is interested and smitten. And anyway, be honest, really. If a woman comes up and hits on you and flirts with you, what are you really thinking, honestly? "Wow, what a strong, independent, smart, wonderful woman! She could be 'the one'," OR "hey great, I get to have sex tonight!"
Aghh yes rose the good old days lol...
I don't think its a major turn off if the guy won't make the first move just shows the lady that your an insecure or shy person.

If I was you I would have at lest went over to her got her name, offer to buy her a drink, dance or something...but if you looked like a bum and she still was eyeballing ya man your crazy not to go over to her...
if you was in your work clothes or just sunday granggies...so what the fact is she was giving you the sign to offer...
Thats even better than being all dressed up....it means she was ''interested''in you. bum or not.
some women like what they see first hand, if you looked like a bum and she still paid attition to you....go back there tonight I order you too....lol
Nah,
good Luck
[QUOTE=Larrylou'smom;3936409]Being in the post-feminist era doesn't change the fact that men are still and always will be by nature hunters and gatherers. Men enjoy getting things they want. Besides, very few women want a man who's too scared or insecure to go after the things he wants in life.

And anyway, be honest, really. If a woman comes up and hits on you and flirts with you, what are you really thinking, honestly? "Wow, what a strong, independent, smart, wonderful woman! She could be 'the one'," OR "hey great, I get to have sex tonight!"[/QUOTE]

Yeah, you have a point there. It would probably throw me off if a girl did come up to me and start flirting. It sucks that women are limited to that role, however. It sucks that they are expected to sit back and wait for a good-looking guy to come after them, instead of going directly for the guy they're interested in. Especially considering all of the progress and equality that was gained by women's lib, it's strange that the rules of the dating world never changed.


[QUOTE=chevyman;3936411]If I was you I would have at lest went over to her got her name, offer to buy her a drink, dance or something...[/QUOTE]

Haha, I can't afford to buy myself a drink right now! Lol. No joke, I'm so broke right now, it's ridiculous.

Part of the thing with the way I was dressed was that I was wearing these really old jeans with a big rip in the knee. I had planned to just stay in last night, and I only decided to go out with my friends at the last minute. I was sitting at a table when that girl was checking me out so she probably couldn't see my jeans. I know, it's still just an excuse I'm making, though.

Another thing is something my sister told one of my girl friends. They were hanging out and talking a little bit on Thursday, and my friend said that they bonded. My friend mentioned that my sister is so happy that I've been spending so much time with her and paying more attention to her lately(as opposed to last year, when I was with my girlfriend). She also told me that my sister doesn't want me to meet someone here at college, because she's afraid that I'll move away from home to live up here with the girl that I meet. That's not really something she should worry about, but I feel that I owe it to my sister to make sure nothing like that happens.

I know those were both excuses. But I'm moving back home in a little over a month, when I graduate college, so I'm really not trying to meet anyone right now. Not that I can say I would've had the guts to go up and talk to that girl even if I [I]were[/I] trying to meet someone. But I don't really feel like I missed out on anything, because I'm sure when I get home there will be plenty of cute girls for me to talk to. I might even find a girl that looks just like the one from last night.





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