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My post may be kind of long but i really need a little guidance.


I have been working with Mich* for about a year and five months. Ever since i met him there was a connection. Thought the year he has become a good friend who i have found very easy to talk to.

Mich is now married with a baby girl and instead of the puppy love feelings I felt in the beginning i think i am now falling for him.

Now i am no home wrecker. But i feel like i can't hold in my feelings anymore.

The story with is wife is she lives in Toronto and us in North America. He use to live in Toronto were he met her and dated for about 2 years in which point he decided to come back to live in America and a bit after that he found out she was pregnant. When I came along she was about 5 months into her pregnancy and they were not wed yet.

At first he did not tell me about her or the baby and we went on with our innocent flirting until one day a co worker of mine told me.

A few months after that the baby was born. It took him almost a little over 6 months to see the baby for the first time. She came to live and they got married. A few months of living here she was home sick and left. This has been going on ever since, she comes for about 2 weeks and leaves.

In the mean time my feelings for him have been growing and growing, up to the point i feel i have fallen for him.

I have tried to cut ties with him to avoid getting my heart broken however i have found it's a lot harder than imagined. When i speak to him about forgetting about him he will get angry and think he did something wrong or tell me it's unfair the way i acting. I feel like i am getting mixed signals from him as well because he won't talk to me about us or he will say he's not the cheating kind yet tells me he can't seem to let go of me and he enjoys speaking to me and the constant flirting. It's not like it's not known that there is an attraction as I've had people come up to me asking if i was his girlfriend or his wife when i say no people seem a bit confessed just because of the way we act towards each other. When I'm around him I feel people staring at us has if to catch us. But i can't help but feel a great deal of happiness that takes over my heart when i am around him, has if he was meant to be there. The first time i saw him with his daughter i knew i wanted him to be the father of my children.

Like I said I am no home wrecker but i feel like in this situation I don't know what to do. If she loved him she won't be in Toronto she would be at her husbands side. In the mean time he works hard to make sure the baby is taken care of (mind you she has no job).

I don't wish for you to look at me wrong and think I steal husbands. I just know what I feel inside and each day with out him is killing me more and more inside and i am too afraid to confront him because even if i have developed stronger feelings for him we are amazing friends and i'm scared to loose that side of him.

Please any in sight/ advice even ways to forget about him would be grateful. I don't want to regret one day that things don't go well in his marriage and I'm not around because i wanted to let him go. I feel like this guy makes me truly happy in ways i have never felt before and i would be completely heartbroken if I knew i stood a chance and out of respect i didn't speak my voice. I would do anything for his man and i need help with the pain i am going through.

I know in an affair the mistress is always the one that gets hurt but A. I'm not a mistress and B. there has to be a reason why he can't let me go has well .
[QUOTE=stephmich;3957557]My post may be kind of long but i really need a little guidance.


I have been working with Mich* for about a year and five months. Ever since i met him there was a connection. Thought the year he has become a good friend who i have found very easy to talk to.

Mich is now married with a baby girl and instead of the puppy love feelings I felt in the beginning i think i am now falling for him.

Now i am no home wrecker. But i feel like i can't hold in my feelings anymore.

The story with is wife is she lives in Toronto and us in North America. He use to live in Toronto were he met her and dated for about 2 years in which point he decided to come back to live in America and a bit after that he found out she was pregnant. When I came along she was about 5 months into her pregnancy and they were not wed yet.

At first he did not tell me about her or the baby and we went on with our innocent flirting until one day a co worker of mine told me.

A few months after that the baby was born. It took him almost a little over 6 months to see the baby for the first time. She came to live and they got married. A few months of living here she was home sick and left. This has been going on ever since, she comes for about 2 weeks and leaves.

In the mean time my feelings for him have been growing and growing, up to the point i feel i have fallen for him.

I have tried to cut ties with him to avoid getting my heart broken however i have found it's a lot harder than imagined. When i speak to him about forgetting about him he will get angry and think he did something wrong or tell me it's unfair the way i acting. I feel like i am getting mixed signals from him as well because he won't talk to me about us or he will say he's not the cheating kind yet tells me he can't seem to let go of me and he enjoys speaking to me and the constant flirting. It's not like it's not known that there is an attraction as I've had people come up to me asking if i was his girlfriend or his wife when i say no people seem a bit confessed just because of the way we act towards each other. When I'm around him I feel people staring at us has if to catch us. But i can't help but feel a great deal of happiness that takes over my heart when i am around him, has if he was meant to be there. The first time i saw him with his daughter i knew i wanted him to be the father of my children.

Like I said I am no home wrecker but i feel like in this situation I don't know what to do. If she loved him she won't be in Toronto she would be at her husbands side. In the mean time he works hard to make sure the baby is taken care of (mind you she has no job).

I don't wish for you to look at me wrong and think I steal husbands. I just know what I feel inside and each day with out him is killing me more and more inside and i am too afraid to confront him because even if i have developed stronger feelings for him we are amazing friends and i'm scared to loose that side of him.

Please any in sight/ advice even ways to forget about him would be grateful. I don't want to regret one day that things don't go well in his marriage and I'm not around because i wanted to let him go. I feel like this guy makes me truly happy in ways i have never felt before and i would be completely heartbroken if I knew i stood a chance and out of respect i didn't speak my voice. I would do anything for his man and i need help with the pain i am going through.

I know in an affair the mistress is always the one that gets hurt but A. I'm not a mistress and B. there has to be a reason why he can't let me go has well .[/QUOTE]





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