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Re: Out of Time
May 6, 2009
[QUOTE=rosequartz;3976810]Plax don't get discouraged.....boyfriends come and boyfriends go....
just because they have one now doesn't mean he'll be there forever.....
get to know someone, bide your time......
timing is everything![/QUOTE]

That's not a terrible idea. But like, if I get really close with a girl who I like and who is in a relationship, then if she eventually breaks up with her boyfriend, I wouldn't want to be in a position where I felt like I broke them up. Do you follow me?

For example, I actually already kind of did this back in high school. I started falling pretty hard for a girl I was friends with, but she had a boyfriend. Everyone knew I liked her, and she and I still spent a good amount of one on one time together while they were dating. I was friendly with her boyfriend, too. I was always nice to him when he was out with me and my friends. I don't know if that made my position of having feelings for his girlfriend better or worse. They broke up and I ended up taking her to my prom, although we never ended up dating or anything like that. But looking back on that, I feel like if I were her boyfriend, I would have hated my girlfriend giving all this attention to another guy that likes her (actually, come to think of it, I guess that's not all that different from what my ex-girlfriend was doing to me last summer).

So I mean, yes, I could still be friends with girls who have boyfriends, and I could still take time to get to know them, and I should. But I just need to make sure I show some self-control and make sure that I don't start really falling for someone who has a boyfriend. Maybe I'm old-fashioned or whatever you want to call it, but I really feel like it is wrong for any guy to come between a couple and create problems for them. I always try to be a gentleman, and a gentleman wouldn't do something like that. There are some women who, you just have to convince yourself that they're off-limits.

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