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The only place I can see where any of this is coming from is that its possible she accidentally led them all on. Like maybe when she gave one of them a compliment it was just that but the guy took it the wrong way.

[QUOTE=calmbloke]Having said that, the one definitely knew she was in a relationship with you. The friend who told you about it - how close is he as a friend? Is his word reliable?[/QUOTE]We use to be really close then something happened last summer when I went on vacation. When I came back he was different, like meaner towards me, he stopped wanted to do things. We pretty much stopped hanging out all together. Its never something i've talked to him about, and its only been in these past couple months thats we've started to really become friends again. So we were close at one point, but right now I feel like were slowly but surely climbing back up to that point. When he told me all these things last night he just seemed so sure of it that something was or had happened.

[QUOTE]ALso think about your girlfriend in general - does she exhibit any deceptive behaviour in other areas of her life, make things up, or that kind of thing?
[/QUOTE]See, thats the thing. She does none of that. She's a terrible lire and anyone can tell when she does lie. That goes hand in hand with deceptive behavior as well, she's the type of person that has a really hard time lying to people and when she does she feels absolutely terrible about. And these are about little things.

[QUOTE=Larrylou'smom]Something sounds fishy here. If I were you, I wouldn't be so quick to believe your friend. If all these guys know each other, they could all be in on something, to try to break you up, to try to hurt her to get back at her for shooting them down, anything could be happening.[/QUOTE]I don't want to believe him and at this point I'm not sure that I do, its just that he seemed so certain and concerned about it. The way he was telling these things it made her to be some sort of slutty college girl which isn't her at all.

One thing that makes this all weird for me is that of the five people in that group of friends, two of them don't like my girlfriend. One of thems a girl that got in a disagreement with my gf and they haven't talked to each other since. The other one is my friend. He said he use to think my gf was really cool, but then he started seeing how she treats me and acts when i'm not around. Then two others I don't care for much, and the last one, the married one is the only one I still get a long with.
So i'm wondering if they really could be that sick and plot to break up our relationship like something out of a cheesy high school drama movie. Its just kind of like would they really do that? I didn't think that sort of thing could or would ever happen in real life. I can't see them sitting around going "Lets plot to break them up".
I honestly truly think she hasn't actually physically cheated on me. And yes I will say I find it odd that three people from the same work place all came on to my girlfriend around the same time. Really im thinking if anything ever really did happen it was that she whether or not on purpose led these three guys on into thinking she had some sort of thing for them.

And to re-state what I said in my first post.

Guy #1 is a very overweight guy a few months younger than me that had never had a girlfriend (apparently has one now though). So this kind of has me thinking that even though my gf was just trying to be friends with him, he obviously thought differently. Also the night he asked my gf out he was drunk and I know for a fact the person he was with talked him into asking my gf out that night.

Guy #2 is a few years older than me and is the type of person that wouldn't respect anyone's relationship for any reason. I honestly think this guy would have no moral dilemma going after a married pregnant woman on the verge of giving birth.

Guy #3 the one thats married and has three kids as well as being about 15 years older than my gf is already cheating on his wife with another woman and has been for the past two years and everyone at work knows it.

Now I feel like she did accidentally lead guy #1 on. She even asked me if I thought she was leading him on and I said its highly likely. She's even showed me texts that she sent him saying she has a boyfriend and only wants to be friends with this guy.

The one that really bothers me is what she supposedly sent to guy #2 the one about screwing his brains out. My friend said he could quote what the text said and it was something along the lines of "I want to f*** your brains out. No kissing, I don't want any emotional connection". However, that doesn't sound like my girlfriend at all. She's all about the emotional connection. And then how she seemed so grossed out by the guy when he asked her if he could pick her up from school.

Then with guy #3, the married one I read the e-mails he sent her. They basically said how he didn't expect her to say yes and how he feels she deserves more than just being a "weekend f***". And then how he's really not happy with his life right now and how he has depression and wishes he never got married.

I guess it can sound like my girlfriend is an attention ***** but I really feel like she isn't. She doesn't dress like a prostitute or drink or go to parties and doesn't like a whole lot of attention to be drawn to her. She gets embarrassed really easily. She's the type of girl that would rather stay at home and watch a movie than go out and party. She's very smart and very mature for her age. The personality I know her for again contradicts what I was told by my friend.

[QUOTE=Mary83]Also, why would you friend lie? Does he have any reason to? It sounds to be like he really is sick of your girlfriend's behavior and decided it's time to finally say something. He probably sits there and watches your gf flirt and lead these guys on, and then go and tell you that THEY hit on her and she's so innocent.[/QUOTE]Im not sure why he would lie, which is what I've been wondering. I do know that this same group of friend use to tell my girlfriend that she should break up with me and that they don't think she's happy in the relationship with me. And my girlfriend would tell me this and say that she doesn't care what they say, she's happy with me.

[QUOTE=Hollaatchaboy]Why not just confront your girlfriend about being unfaithful? [/QUOTE]Because she's in another country right now and doesn't have phone or internet access all the time. And since its so expensive to talk to someone in another country I wouldn't even bother bringing up such a lengthy subject if I ever did get a hold of her.

Speaking of being in another country, all this talk about her potentially leading people on may make it sound like she doesn't like me much anymore, but this were true why would she go through so much trouble to contact me from two different countries on five separate occasions. She obviously thinks I'm worth the effort and money to talk to even if its just for 5 minutes.

So when she gets back how should I ask her about it? Should I be accusing or should I let her know that my friend said this is what he said you did and sent to other people at work and I want to hear her side of it? Would it be unreasonable to ask to stop hanging out with or talking to guy #1 altogether? Or to stop talking to guy #2 at work? I don't really have to worry about guy #3 anymore since he got transferred to a different building within the company. I don't want to make it sound like I'm accusing her but I don't want it to seem like she can walk all over me and lie to me and get away with it.
I don't really know what to say to you because I don't know your friend but let me just say that people will do some of the craziest must inconceivable things out of JEALOUSY! I have had people do some totally messed up **** to me to try and break my marriage/relationship up! Stuff that's just NUTS! Don't put anything past anyone! My husband's EX gf is just going totally bonkers doing crazy stuff to us and my husband lived with her for 12 years and said that he never saw her do what she's doing before or something crazy like she's you just don't know what people's motives are for doing crazy stuff!

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