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I really hope someone can help me with this. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, Iím 29 and heís 35. I love him to bits but he is constantly touching me and itís really getting on my nerves.

As soon as he arrives at my house he starts tugging at my clothes, unclips my bra and grabs my breasts. Not only is it really frustrating but my clothes are getting ruined from constantly being pulled about. When weíre in the car he touches me, even if Iím driving. If he gets a chance to sneakily touch me when weíre out shopping, he will. If we go for a walk somewhere heíll touch me if he thinks nobody is watching or he'll try to drag me into a secluded area to touch me.

I can't even watch a DVD or TV with him without him trying to grab my breasts, bum or other intimate areas.

Itís actually starting to have an effect on our sex life. By the end of the day I feel so frustrated at having to have fought him off for hours, I canít bear for him to touch me anymore.

I know it sounds ridiculous but itís really getting me down. I have spoken to him about it but he just says that Iím broken and frigid.

Is this normal behaviour? I really donít know if Iím just overreacting.
The guy wants intimacy but he's obviously going about it the wrong way and is perhaps a little dense not to have noticed that yet. If you've been reasonably direct with him, be even more direct with him that him constantly touching you doesn't make you frigid it just makes HIM a pest.

It could be that he used to be like this to a much lesser extent but when things were fresh perhaps you'd think it was more fun and rise to it a bit more. Perhaps he's trying to inject some fun into things but unfortunately he maybe doesn't have much else in his repertoire so he's just doing it more and expecting it to work at some point!

Ask him why he keeps doing it, then maybe you can help him find another way to express his affections beyond a constant grope-o-rama. If it's got to the point of damaging clothes then that's a pretty constant annoyance!
I had one of those! You're totally right it's really annoying! You get to start feeling like a piece of meat instead of a person.

What I did didn't work either. He would constantly grab my chest and I would tell him it doesn't turn me on, it makes me want to tazer the loser!

He has been my ex for 7 years. It' a serious show of disrespect for him to not listen to you. He is showing you that your feelings don't matter and furthermore he is twisting it around to make it your fault by calling you frigid.

This guy is a pig and you should ditch him because he sounds like an immature disrespectful pile of monkey goo. You need to assert yourself and don't settle for being treated like this from anyone!
[QUOTE=MinkyMoo;4024387]I really hope someone can help me with this. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, Iím 29 and heís 35. I love him to bits but he is constantly touching me and itís really getting on my nerves.

As soon as he arrives at my house he starts tugging at my clothes, unclips my bra and grabs my breasts. Not only is it really frustrating but my clothes are getting ruined from constantly being pulled about. When weíre in the car he touches me, even if Iím driving. If he gets a chance to sneakily touch me when weíre out shopping, he will. If we go for a walk somewhere heíll touch me if he thinks nobody is watching or he'll try to drag me into a secluded area to touch me.

I can't even watch a DVD or TV with him without him trying to grab my breasts, bum or other intimate areas.

Itís actually starting to have an effect on our sex life. By the end of the day I feel so frustrated at having to have fought him off for hours, I canít bear for him to touch me anymore.

I know it sounds ridiculous but itís really getting me down. I have spoken to him about it but he just says that Iím broken and frigid.

Is this normal behaviour? I really donít know if Iím just overreacting.[/QUOTE]

well, since we cant observe this behavior, but by your account its very hard to say which and what is normal.. I can tell you with certain confidence this is not something that can and will be resolved to sufficiently satisfy both ofyou for a long-term relations.. cut your loses and run.... its just not going to work - u too are both too different ; he needs to find someone who likes that kinda thing .. that is all.





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