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[QUOTE=Nikita8282;4052486]Last night we had a HUGE fight about the trips to see his daughter and the insurance thing. I told him I wanted the money back I spent on the visit last weekend- he was FURIOUS! I told him staright up that his daughter is his responsibilty and it doesnt matter that I go b/c even if I weren't in the picture he would still be going anyway. He told me I was a B**** and that I had "nerve" for even suggesting that he repay me. He twsited the entire thing around and was acting like I said that I hated his child! I've told him a million times that she is an awesome kid and I love her to death- but as I said she's not mine (legally not even his- though he made her) and she's not my responsibility. I buy her toys and clothes whenever I see something I think she'd like and I feel like thats more than enough- not to mention that he doesn't really play with her and she's practically attached to me when we go to visit. So anyway, now he said he doesn't want me to even go anymore (as if it were a punishment!). I guess its for the best- I'll miss seeing her but at the same time I will save myself the arguement every stinkin time.
Then we got into the insurance thing.... he wants HIS check. I told him how I felt about it and he was not hearing me at all. I wanted to take some of the money to just pay off our landlords deductible. He's got it in his head that since it was all his stuff that got burnt- that it's his check. To him it doesn't matter that I have been paying renters insurance for YEARS and that if I didn't have it he would get nothing OR have to wait to go to court (a brand new faulty appliance caused the fire so he's suing the company that made it) which could take YEARS to be finalized. He said that "it doesn't matter if I had insurance, he'd get the money anyway eventually". He doesn't get it. My mom and a few of my friends said I should tell him that the claim was denied or I chose not to take the money because they low balled me and just pocket the money. He's already thought that I would do that- he's threatening to call the company and tell them that the claim is fraudulent (he's an a-hole like that too). But I told the assessor when she came to see the stuff that it wasn't my stuff but I lived there- I was told that it didn't matter. The only issue was wether he wanted to persue the losses in court or have my insurance pay out. If my insurance pays out and I take the money but tell him I declined the money b/c it was too low or that my company denied the claim and he goes after it in court I could get in trouble.... I really don't know what to do.
I know I should obviously cut my losses and bail and I want that at this point but financially I cant do it right now. I wont be able to make a move for a few months. I don't have many friends or places to crash so I'm a little stuck in the situation right now. UGH.[/QUOTE]

You say that "financially you cant do it right now". I say that financially you cant afford not to! He has revealed himself to you completely based on this post. What are you still doing there? He is a parasite with an inflated level of entitlement. I don't even believe that he really wants his daughter. I think he is just one of those men who tries to control everything around them. Run away fast before he completely ruins your life!

Regards,
Linda





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