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I was thinking...why in the heck would she ask me that? I wouldn't be sitting there with her if I did![/QUOTE]

B/c something's seriously wrong with her. That's why. I'm not sure what she suffers from, maybe bipolar... but she could have borderline personality disorder. One of it's symptoms are dramatic and unpredictable mood swings. That one seems to fit. Another symptom is relationship issues dealing communication, that seems to be present. She also seems to be afraid of being alone, a reason why she constantly wants to text/call you. She has problems with anger too, another symptom of bpd, because she yells gets mad at you and throws tantrums for no reason. Not to mention she has lost touch with reality, which is listed as another symtom on that famous website for MD's. The only symptom (Out of like 10!) that I can't seem to find with her are suicidal thoughts and self mutilation. But even though that might not be there, she may still have BPD.

Another thing she could have is Antisocial personality disorder. It's is a mental illness that involves a pattern of disregard for the rights of others. Deceit and manipulation to gain personal profit or pleasure are common behaviors by people with this disorder. A person with antisocial personality disorder fails to conform to social norms. Important decisions, such as ending a relationship or changing a job, may be made suddenly and w/out consideration about the consequences.
Those with antisocial personality disorder tend to be irritable and may verbally abuse another person such as a spouse or child. Irresponsible work behavior and financial habits are common. Little remorse is shown for harmful behaviors.

Could Antisocial Personality Disorder also be a possiblility?

She is very immature and does not understand logic, common sense nor is she reasonable. With a woman like this, even if you are right, you still are wrong.

Also, I am seeing some contradictions in what she says. Here is one of those:

"...saying she had fallen madly in love with me, [COLOR="DarkOrange"]and that she was so sorry for the way she acted, [/COLOR]etc etc etc. I told her the only way it would ever come close to working was if she saw a counselor/doctor..."

"I opened myself up to you completely and loved you and [COLOR="DarkOrange"]to have been treated like this made me regret [/COLOR]everything I shared with you. I [COLOR="DarkOrange"]cannot believe that this treatment would have ever come from you [/COLOR]but now that it has I realise that we were never meant for each other."

Is this referring to the same woman? Is it referring to two separate incidences or to the relationship overall? First she begs you back and deeply apologizes for the way she acted, then turns around and says you're the one who's behavior is unacceptable... :confused:
[QUOTE=justkeeppraying;4121887]B/c something's seriously wrong with her. That's why. I'm not sure what she suffers from, maybe bipolar... but she could have borderline personality disorder. One of it's symptoms are dramatic and unpredictable mood swings. That one seems to fit. Another symptom is relationship issues dealing communication, that seems to be present. She also seems to be afraid of being alone, a reason why she constantly wants to text/call you. She has problems with anger too, another symptom of bpd, because she yells gets mad at you and throws tantrums for no reason. Not to mention she has lost touch with reality, which is listed as another symtom on that famous website for MD's. The only symptom (Out of like 10!) that I can't seem to find with her are suicidal thoughts and self mutilation. But even though that might not be there, she may still have BPD.

Another thing she could have is Antisocial personality disorder. It's is a mental illness that involves a pattern of disregard for the rights of others. Deceit and manipulation to gain personal profit or pleasure are common behaviors by people with this disorder. A person with antisocial personality disorder fails to conform to social norms. Important decisions, such as ending a relationship or changing a job, may be made suddenly and w/out consideration about the consequences.
Those with antisocial personality disorder tend to be irritable and may verbally abuse another person such as a spouse or child. Irresponsible work behavior and financial habits are common. Little remorse is shown for harmful behaviors.

Could Antisocial Personality Disorder also be a possiblility?[/quote]

I don't think she has the symptoms of being APD bc she is very responsible with work and money. Aside from being irritable from time to time, I don't think she uses deceit for personal profit unless you count her trying to make me jealous as a way to control me?

[quote]She is very immature and does not understand logic, common sense nor is she reasonable. With a woman like this, even if you are right, you still are wrong.[/quote]

Right...I've tried to explain something to her before and it didn't matter what I said...she could pick out one word from the sentence and start a whole nother argument. For instance...the time she got up set at me for not eating more pizza than her (this sounds like a seinfeld episode doesn't it) I explained to her that she did not eat the same amount as me b/c I ate 2 big slices and she ate 2 small slices. She said...why did you give me 2 small slices? Is it bc you think my a** is too fat???! I was thinking...what??? No!

[quote]Also, I am seeing some contradictions in what she says. Here is one of those:

"...saying she had fallen madly in love with me, [COLOR="DarkOrange"]and that she was so sorry for the way she acted, [/COLOR]etc etc etc. I told her the only way it would ever come close to working was if she saw a counselor/doctor..."

"I opened myself up to you completely and loved you and [COLOR="DarkOrange"]to have been treated like this made me regret [/COLOR]everything I shared with you. I [COLOR="DarkOrange"]cannot believe that this treatment would have ever come from you [/COLOR]but now that it has I realise that we were never meant for each other."

Is this referring to the same woman? Is it referring to two separate incidences or to the relationship overall? First she begs you back and deeply apologizes for the way she acted, then turns around and says you're the one who's behavior is unacceptable... :confused:[/QUOTE]

Yes...it's a little confusing. It is the same woman. We broke up the night that she got mad at me for going to the gym...then she called me and begged me to take her back...we didn't officially get back together, but we did talk for a few days, and then she went nuts about something else and I broke up with her for good. That is when I updated and said I had not talked to her since we broke up. I should have made it more clear that I wasn't talking about the first time I officially broke up with her.

I think she thought I was going to call or contact her after we broke up and I didn't. That is the "treatment" she was referring to...that I would just walk away and cut contact like that.

after she emailed me I admit that I did write her back and said the reason she had not heard from me was b/c I felt like I had been mistreated and that we needed separation. She apologized again for everything...said she was wrong to yell at me that night and said she was sorry for a bunch of stuff. She didn't ask me to take her back though...she said she just wanted us to not dislike each other.

It is kind of confusing and even I'm getting confused. :confused:





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