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hey i think u already know my story about the shy guy i like at work.....
i think we really enjoyed each other company in the very beginng...he attracted my attention and i attracted his attention...he came around me a lot and he still look at me from a distance but not coming any closer...before when he sow me alone at some place he would come and talk even if he said stupid things or whatever...now he just look at me from a distant but dosnt came any closer....

i told u i made a decison to not send him sms (and i will keep that promisse to myself)...i tried to not talk to him for two days....i mean i sow him watching me but i pretended not seeing him....today i went to hi office (lets say i missed our small talks) and i told him hi how are u , he started to be a bit funny as usuall...then when i tried to tell him something he said without leting me finishe: oh no i cant help u with your documentary (since he has helped me many times)...i got offended and i told him well im sorry to bother u , never mind and i left his office...he started to call my name to go back and tell him what i wanted to tell him...but i didnt then he asked me again :why did u go like that ...i replyed cause i dont like to bother the others...he smiled and said ....but u went aways just like that for that small thing....yeah i said to him...u must understand people i guess....then he went away


i will not chase him anymore...i will not send him texts anymore since we see each other at work everyday and its too much and meangless to send him sms or something .....anyways why do u think he's being distant for this last 7 days????????
Well, I don't have an answer for you, but he comes across as very insecure. Probably he doesn't even know how to kiss a girl.
[QUOTE=pendulum;4126162]Well, I don't have an answer for you, but he comes across as very insecure. Probably he doesn't even know how to kiss a girl.[/QUOTE]

yeah propably....anyway do u think im wasting my time thinking about him? Or i must be patiente to see how things will go in coming days ?
i dont even get if he is really interested in me or not.....
I think you're wasting your time thinking about him. If he is interested, he will ask you out. It's that simple. If he's too shy, do you really want to have a relationship with a man where you have to do everything? Do you want to be in a relationship with a man when you are not sure he's really interested in you? Personally, I think you want a man who shows you in different ways how much you mean to him, and how much he is interested in you - a man who asks you out, spends time with you.
[QUOTE=BigRed54;4126301]I think you're wasting your time thinking about him. If he is interested, he will ask you out. It's that simple. If he's too shy, do you really want to have a relationship with a man where you have to do everything? Do you want to be in a relationship with a man when you are not sure he's really interested in you? Personally, I think you want a man who shows you in different ways how much you mean to him, and how much he is interested in you - a man who asks you out, spends time with you.[/QUOTE]

thanks :) i know what u mean and yes u're right...the problem is that i see him everyday at work but it will pass if he will not do any steps
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i will not chase him anymore...i will not send him texts anymore since we see each other at work everyday and its too much and meangless to send him sms or something .....anyways why do u think he's being distant for this last 7 days????????[/QUOTE]

Right there is your problem. You are chasing him, sending him texts, giving him attention, maybe you are flirting with him (?), what guy does not like this attention? Men LOVE attention! He misses it when you stop giving it to him. Back off. Stop doing all that stuff. If he likes you he WILL come after you even if he is shy. Let HIM come to you. You've dropped major signs, he knows how you feel. Believe me, if he is able to be in a relationship and he likes you he'll go after you. If not, well....it could be that he is unavailable and you don't know what is really going on with him. Anyways, personally I think that he is basking in this attention you are throwing at him, looks forward to it every day and just loves it. And it makes me wonder if he is unavailable in some way because if he does like you he would have asked you out by now. My advice: back off, avoid him, even pretend that you aren't interested in him anymore, keep your eyes open for other potential dates. I think you are wasting your time. As hard as it may seem right now, try to force this whole scene out of your mind and get busy dwelling on something else.
As to the being distant for the last 7 days? Well, I don't think he is truly interested in you. Back off and move on is my advice.

wish you the best
[QUOTE=chocolate29;4126920]Right there is your problem. You are chasing him, sending him texts, giving him attention, maybe you are flirting with him (?), what guy does not like this attention? Men LOVE attention! He misses it when you stop giving it to him. Back off. Stop doing all that stuff. If he likes you he WILL come after you even if he is shy. Let HIM come to you. You've dropped major signs, he knows how you feel. Believe me, if he is able to be in a relationship and he likes you he'll go after you. If not, well....it could be that he is unavailable and you don't know what is really going on with him. Anyways, personally I think that he is basking in this attention you are throwing at him, looks forward to it every day and just loves it. And it makes me wonder if he is unavailable in some way because if he does like you he would have asked you out by now. My advice: back off, avoid him, even pretend that you aren't interested in him anymore, keep your eyes open for other potential dates. I think you are wasting your time. As hard as it may seem right now, try to force this whole scene out of your mind and get busy dwelling on something else.
As to the being distant for the last 7 days? Well, I don't think he is truly interested in you. Back off and move on is my advice.

wish you the best[/QUOTE]




he keeps wahtcing me ....but i've made my mind.....if he wants to talk to me or something....he knowsa where to find me..im better now...im concentated on my work and everything else....thanks :)
that's too funny...he keeps seeing me all the time and comes around me with he seem to not have the courage to talk ....nice huh...now he is paying attention too me....i would think he's immature but anyway ....
It sounds like he really is interested but you are both playing games. I would tell you to just directly ask him what he feels, but forgive me for sounding sexist and lumping all men into one category, but they tend to back away from directness and confrontation. Maybe it takes the fun out of the "hunt" to be open and honest about feelings.





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