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We were watching a movie on his comp., I tried to go back a page to find what I thought were just regular movie files, and I saw a saved clip called "Best threesome ever". I kind of gagged and went outside and chain smoked. He asked if I was upset and I said yeah but I didn't feel like getting into it. He said it was old and he barely watches porn anymore and I shouldn't be upset yada yada. The truth is, it wouldn't be there if he didn't watch it. I think what bothers me most is the fact that it was a threesome. He mentioned something about that once before as a joke. It really was a joke in that he was talking about me having a threesome with him and another guy that looked like him. Anyway, I said then that I really am not into that when I'm in a relationship, and he said okay and we've never talked about it since. I guess I just worry that this is something he really fantasizes about, and also something I could never give him. I also feel like if I was "better," more attractive or better in bed I guess, that he wouldn't really feel the need to still be looking at porn when we have sex multiple times a week.

I figured he watched porn, but I never really thought about it. I didn't think it would upset me until I saw what he was actually into and saw these girls - skinny, big boobs, lots of make-up. He has mentioned before one time that he was about to have sex with a girl at a party cause she propositioned it, and he described her as bleach-blonde and lots of make-up and "gorgeous", but then he backed away cause she started talking and was annoying. I guess it bothers me that he's attracted sexually to women he would never even want to talk to. How can you want to have sex with someone that you have no respect for? I am not ugly by any means, but I don't wear much make-up or tight clothes or anything like that, and I feel like apparently that's what he's "into". So why is he with me?

Sorry for the rant. Am I overreacting? I have a feeling you guys will say yes. I don't know why, but I am experiencing feelings of jealousy, disgust, and even anger. There's no point in talking to him about it, because I guess it's not really his problem, and he'll just tell me what I wanna hear anyway.
[QUOTE=digmusic;4133840]We were watching a movie on his comp., I tried to go back a page to find what I thought were just regular movie files, and I saw a saved clip called "Best threesome ever". I kind of gagged and went outside and chain smoked. He asked if I was upset and I said yeah but I didn't feel like getting into it. He said it was old and he barely watches porn anymore and I shouldn't be upset yada yada. The truth is, it wouldn't be there if he didn't watch it. I think what bothers me most is the fact that it was a threesome. He mentioned something about that once before as a joke. It really was a joke in that he was talking about me having a threesome with him and another guy that looked like him. Anyway, I said then that I really am not into that when I'm in a relationship, and he said okay and we've never talked about it since. I guess I just worry that this is something he really fantasizes about, and also something I could never give him. I also feel like if I was "better," more attractive or better in bed I guess, that he wouldn't really feel the need to still be looking at porn when we have sex multiple times a week.

I figured he watched porn, but I never really thought about it. I didn't think it would upset me until I saw what he was actually into and saw these girls - skinny, big boobs, lots of make-up. He has mentioned before one time that he was about to have sex with a girl at a party cause she propositioned it, and he described her as bleach-blonde and lots of make-up and "gorgeous", but then he backed away cause she started talking and was annoying. I guess it bothers me that he's attracted sexually to women he would never even want to talk to. How can you want to have sex with someone that you have no respect for? I am not ugly by any means, but I don't wear much make-up or tight clothes or anything like that, and I feel like apparently that's what he's "into". So why is he with me?

Sorry for the rant. Am I overreacting? I have a feeling you guys will say yes. I don't know why, but I am experiencing feelings of jealousy, disgust, and even anger. There's no point in talking to him about it, because I guess it's not really his problem, and he'll just tell me what I wanna hear anyway.[/QUOTE]

i think that whether or not a guy has a good sex life, hes going to look at porn. i think that guys look at porn that is DIFFERENT than their sex life, and not something that they are REALLY into. i would also be upset if i saw that my boyfriend was into porn full of sterotypical females, because its like where is the attraction?! i dont think you are over reacting, but i think that maybe you should set aside the whole thing and try to talk to him about it. ask him what he enjoys from it, and why. some of people fantasys have nothing to do with something they would actually do on a normal basis. so. i think, comminication here, is the key. just ask him what he enjoys about these videos.
[QUOTE=digmusic;4133840]We were watching a movie on his comp., I tried to go back a page to find what I thought were just regular movie files, and I saw a saved clip called "Best threesome ever". I kind of gagged and went outside and chain smoked. He asked if I was upset and I said yeah but I didn't feel like getting into it. He said it was old and he barely watches porn anymore and I shouldn't be upset yada yada. The truth is, it wouldn't be there if he didn't watch it. I think what bothers me most is the fact that it was a threesome. He mentioned something about that once before as a joke. It really was a joke in that he was talking about me having a threesome with him and another guy that looked like him. Anyway, I said then that I really am not into that when I'm in a relationship, and he said okay and we've never talked about it since. I guess I just worry that this is something he really fantasizes about, and also something I could never give him. I also feel like if I was "better," more attractive or better in bed I guess, that he wouldn't really feel the need to still be looking at porn when we have sex multiple times a week.

I figured he watched porn, but I never really thought about it. I didn't think it would upset me until I saw what he was actually into and saw these girls - skinny, big boobs, lots of make-up. He has mentioned before one time that he was about to have sex with a girl at a party cause she propositioned it, and he described her as bleach-blonde and lots of make-up and "gorgeous", but then he backed away cause she started talking and was annoying. I guess it bothers me that he's attracted sexually to women he would never even want to talk to. How can you want to have sex with someone that you have no respect for? I am not ugly by any means, but I don't wear much make-up or tight clothes or anything like that, and I feel like apparently that's what he's "into". So why is he with me?

Sorry for the rant. Am I overreacting? I have a feeling you guys will say yes. I don't know why, but I am experiencing feelings of jealousy, disgust, and even anger. There's no point in talking to him about it, because I guess it's not really his problem, and he'll just tell me what I wanna hear anyway.[/QUOTE]
i think that any girl in her right mind would get upset by that. my bf is one of those... it really pisses me off but at times it is really hard to cope with... i think that we women should stand up and let them know who is boss! guys will always be pricks so i honestly don't think that you are overreacting...





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