It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Relationship Health Message Board

Relationship Health Board Index

[QUOTE=Kaylynn904;4146673]You all gave such great advice. Thank u. It's just so hard to walk away when I still love him so much. Also the new guy is not my boyfriend, we have been dating for almost 2 months. He wants to be my boyfriend but he knows the situation with my ex and I told him I am not ready for that.[/QUOTE]

Trust me, I don't say "walk away" lightly. I know just how hard it is. It's so hard, I couldn't do it. But I wish to God I had. I followed my heart, and went with my oh so strong feelings, thinking that it had to mean something, that I felt this strongly. I wouldn't feel this strongly, wouldn't feel like curling up and dying without him, if it wasn't meant to be, right? Uh, WRONG. Soooooo way, way wrong. the harsh, cold hard truth is, it just doesn't matter how much you love him, or how strong your feelings are for him. You can't love him into loving you. Just because your feelings are so strong, does not mean his are just as strong. He's not obligated to love you as much as you love him. And if he did, he wouldn't treat you the way he does.

I'm not telling you what to do, you have to live with the choice you make. I'm just telling you what I wish I had done when I was in your exact same shoes. I wish I had gone with the guy who I may not have felt as passionately for, but who treated me better. Going with my heart and chasing a guy who was bad for me just because I LLUUUUUUVVVED him so much, was the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life, a mistake I will be paying for the rest of my life.

Perhaps Sunny's advice will work, if he's amenable to it. Would your ex be ok with just being platonic friends, would YOU be ok with just being platonic friends, while you pursue the romantic possibilities with this new guy? Could you really commit to this new guy and give it a real chance while still keeping the door open for your ex, so to speak? If so, then you may not want to burn that bridge. But sometimes, going cold turkey is the only way to let someone go who you have feelings for but who isn't good for you. think long and hard about it, and always do what is in YOUR long term best interests.

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 03:44 PM.

© 2020 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!