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Ahh, unfortunately, I'm back on here but this time I'm not sure if the issue is specifically related to my boyfriend's daughter or a combination. Alot has happened since I last posted. I was able to plan some one-on-one time with the daughter and I was also included in a couple of family get togethers (including easter) as well as a day I planned for the 3 of us while she was on school vacation. everything was seemingly fine.

Then, the problems (with her) began again but this time, the Mom wasn't upset with me as she was getting just as much from the daughter because she was dating too. So now everyone is stressed, the daughter was fighting with both parents, threatening to 'run away', etc. and they then learned that she was having problems at school with some classmates as well as her admitting she wanted her parents together. (she was 2 when they split so it's not like she's known them together). Anyway, my boyfriend took the time to reasurre me and stress that this would not effect us and that it could take a year, two even, before she fully accepts me. The future reference he stated made me feel good - in that he sees us together that far down the road. He will occasionally make remarks like that so I've never had the urge to ask that dreaded "where are we" in the relationship.

Fast forward to now, our sports season has started where we both have crazy schedules so I attributed to my not staying over so often to that as well as him spending more time with his daughter. But then it just felt like he was withdrawing - less texts, he wouldn't call or text when he was away for the day/weekend with his daughter's tournaments like he used to, and just a general overall feeling something changed. It got worse and I was so stressed about it, i finally called him on it, something i hated to do. he immediately called me and said that he is so incredibly stressed from dealing with his daughter, that he's even forgetting about his own games and his head is spinning. He asked if i could please give him a little time and hopefully when she goes to her Grandmother's for the summer, things will be a little less crazed.

That was about 2 weeks ago. Since, things have been hot and cold (just like they were). If I stay over, I have his devoted attention and it feels like I'm the only person on this planet. But when we're apart, I hardly hear from him. He has only had 2 serious relationships in his life and had not dated for years before he met me. A mutual friend of ours said he hasn't seen him with anyone for as long as he's known him and that he probably is used to doing what he wants and doesn't have a clue how to be i na relationship.

Just this past week, he brought up me coming on a trip with him and his team to watch him play and this is a few months down the road. I was delighted as I always take this as a good sign. But Friday to last night or this morning, he's had his daughter and I haven't heard from him. I never text him (unless necessary) when he has her out of respect for their time together but he used to at least sneak a call or text in just to say hello.

Should I take this as anything bad or that he has just shifted his attention to completely focus on his daughter? It just makes me feel bad that I became used to one type of behavior and now he's on and off distant and I don't know what to make of it.





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