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I completely agree! I love a man with manners. But then there is that guy that stares a little to long, laughs a little too loud, and gets way too personal, way too fast. And by that, I dont necessarily mean trying to get third base. I mean the guy that is overyly sensetive, talks about puppies and the starwars convention all night, and gets a little teary at the mention of grandma. Although I'm sure this guy is very well intentioned, and he certainly is a thoughtful little critter, everything in my body wants to scream RUN AWAY! But the guy that kind with a casual ease, I like that. He's interested in what I want to talk about, and has things of his own to say as well. He opens the door for me, is polite and gentle, but comfortable.......it's like it's second nature to him and not this BIG effort of over exagerated motions.
a lot of guys ask this question because they confuse "nice" with desperate, weak, etc. The example I use is I wasn't attracted to this guy, a self-professed "nice guy," because he wanted to hang out constantly, he constantly asked what I was thinking and just overall seemed kind of... whiny. He thought girls didn't like him because he was too nice but he was actually quite selfish, his personality changed when he realized I wasn't interested. Women generally like guys that are confident and sure of themselves while still caring and kind. Women that like bad boys are typically just immature.
[QUOTE=digmusic;4206210]a lot of guys ask this question because they confuse "nice" with desperate, weak, etc. The example I use is I wasn't attracted to this guy, a self-professed "nice guy," because he wanted to hang out constantly, he constantly asked what I was thinking and just overall seemed kind of... whiny. He thought girls didn't like him because he was too nice but he was actually quite selfish, his personality changed when he realized I wasn't interested. Women generally like guys that are confident and sure of themselves while still caring and kind. Women that like bad boys are typically just immature.[/QUOTE]

This is quite insightful.

In my opinion there are two kinds of nice guys. There's the guy that is kind because that's who he is. He treats everyone with respect and considers everyone else without losing perspective on who he is. Then there's the self-professed "Nice Guy," that is selfish, deeply insecure and thinks excessive flattery and giving everything he has to a woman should entitle him to her eternal love, and he becomes angry and embittered when the woman sees through him and leaves him for someone else. These Nice Guys moan to everyone around them that women don't like to be treated well because THEY were dumped, so it was obviously because they were too nice. Yeah, right.

Women, like all people, like being treated with respect. Be sincere, don't push yourself on anyone, and don't fall into the trap of thinking that being a decent human being is going to either entitle you to the love of your life or make you less of a man.





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