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Re: Exes are evil
Mar 21, 2010
I really wouldnt worry about this. Your boyfriend didn't even reply to her messages. My guess is if she actually had the nerve to sneak into his apartment one night, he'd tell her to go first thing. He returned her things and it sounds like he is fine with it all being over. Dont let this get to you. Ever hear of the phrase, "what we fear, we create"? Well it basically means that when we allow ouselves to become paranoid of a situation, we actually create a scenario where it is more likely to happen. For example, your completely afraid of getting into a car accident. So everytime you get in a car, your yelling at the kids to be quiet, white knuckled, turning every 10 sec to see if there are any cars near you, and BAM!!!! you didnt see the the light turn red in front of you and rear end a car. The theory is the same in matters of the heart. You are afraid of your boyfriend going back to his ex, so you start hounding him, snooping, and accusing at him everytime it pops into your head. All of a sudden, your not so much fun anymore to him and the ex doesnt look so bad. Got it? Sooooooo, just relax. There are no red flags on your boyfriends behalf, he chose you, just be happy with that and leave it alone.
Melissa
Re: Exes are evil
Mar 22, 2010
[QUOTE=justmel30;4208948]I really wouldnt worry about this. Your boyfriend didn't even reply to her messages. My guess is if she actually had the nerve to sneak into his apartment one night, he'd tell her to go first thing. He returned her things and it sounds like he is fine with it all being over. Dont let this get to you. Ever hear of the phrase, "what we fear, we create"? Well it basically means that when we allow ouselves to become paranoid of a situation, we actually create a scenario where it is more likely to happen. For example, your completely afraid of getting into a car accident. So everytime you get in a car, your yelling at the kids to be quiet, white knuckled, turning every 10 sec to see if there are any cars near you, and BAM!!!! you didnt see the the light turn red in front of you and rear end a car. The theory is the same in matters of the heart. You are afraid of your boyfriend going back to his ex, so you start hounding him, snooping, and accusing at him everytime it pops into your head. All of a sudden, your not so much fun anymore to him and the ex doesnt look so bad. Got it? Sooooooo, just relax. There are no red flags on your boyfriends behalf, he chose you, just be happy with that and leave it alone.
Melissa[/QUOTE]

Thanks a lot for your advice. I am going to try and not worry so much anymore and stop potentially looking for things to be wrong. :)





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