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Those of you who remember me from my last failed relationship please bear with me. I've met a new guy, very shortly after the last breakup with the spy guy that I had been dating about 8 months.

I met this man, a man of ethiopian descent and we had the most amazing first date which extended into the entire weekend, unexpectedly. Date one was going out to dinner and dancing, date two was brunch with his son, date three was him coming to brunch with my friends and acting like he was my boyfriend already. He lives about 2 hours away. Before date four and about a week after meeting he told me that he was in love with me, that he knew it was crazy and too soon but that was how he felt. we text and speak every night, date 4 I went to his home and spent the night, again, we had the most fantastic time. He's 52, divorced two grown kids, I'm 42, divorced no kids. When he told me he loved me I said I Loved him too, but I'm more in love with being in a relationship and being with him than truly in love with him. I have no doubt that I will fall in love with him, right now I adore him, I take a while to fall in love.

But I told him that I loved him too. Now he tells me things like he has no doubt I'm the one, that he wants to go to certain places for our honeymoon, that i fulfill all of his senses, this has never happened to him before but he's so smitten with me, he's deeply in love, he gave me the key to his apt. i have him mine. he brings me flowers, he picks me up at the airport. He wants to take me to his home country, that he sees our lives together. He told his friends that we are already talking marriage, although we haven't. He says that I complete him (corny), that he can die a happy man now, that he loves the way I adore him, that he loves being a part of my life. He wants to meet my family, talk to my dad.

I'm just totally overwhelmed and I am falling for him and I will be deeply in love with him. Those of you that know me know that I want to be in a committed relationship, I've just recently started to consider marrying again. He excites me, everything about him appeals to me, his spirituality, the way he interacts with others, the way he looks, dresses, smells, he is just amazing in bed, our chemistry is out of this world.

But then, sometimes in between the effusiveness, he gets quiet and I get worried and then he comes back with how much he adores and loves me and hates being without me. He wants me to try and telecommute from where he lives. Then occasionally he's very quiet and I wonder, did he change his mind?

Is this for real? I want it to be, he says that he's nothing without me, what is that all about? I'm definitely something without him. He's not born here, is this normal for his culture? I love all of it but I do think that as quickly as he fell in, he could fall out. He says that he slept with his ex wife on the first date and stayed married to her for 11 years. He's opening a business and wants me to join, he wants us to work together and do projects together. I told him that I want to go live overseas at some point and he said he would, without a doubt, go with me.

I don't think he's lying about any of this, I just wonder if he can sustain it. And why do I worry so much, he's so effusive and pays so much attention to me that any change in that behavior and I start to freak out and think he's changed his mind. Today he texted me bfore I woke up, called me to say he loved me so much, texted me again to tell me the same and that he wanted me to call him, but when I did he was distant and quiet. I know he was just tired but I suddenly start to think, there he goes, he's changed his mind.

I'm insecure, I want to be in love with him and want him to love me. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Does it sound real, good, worrisome? Can it be for real? I'm so hurt by my last relationship that I always feel that I'm going to do or say something wrong and he'll just leave me. To me, this is ideal, I just keep thinking that shortly, he will burn out or change his mind.
[QUOTE=reba423;4222160]Those of you who remember me from my last failed relationship please bear with me. I've met a new guy, very shortly after the last breakup with the spy guy that I had been dating about 8 months.

I met this man, a man of ethiopian descent and we had the most amazing first date which extended into the entire weekend, unexpectedly. Date one was going out to dinner and dancing, date two was brunch with his son, date three was him coming to brunch with my friends and acting like he was my boyfriend already. He lives about 2 hours away. Before date four and about a week after meeting he told me that he was in love with me, that he knew it was crazy and too soon but that was how he felt. we text and speak every night, date 4 I went to his home and spent the night, again, we had the most fantastic time. He's 52, divorced two grown kids, I'm 42, divorced no kids. When he told me he loved me I said I Loved him too, but I'm more in love with being in a relationship and being with him than truly in love with him. I have no doubt that I will fall in love with him, right now I adore him, I take a while to fall in love.

But I told him that I loved him too. Now he tells me things like he has no doubt I'm the one, that he wants to go to certain places for our honeymoon, that i fulfill all of his senses, this has never happened to him before but he's so smitten with me, he's deeply in love, he gave me the key to his apt. i have him mine. he brings me flowers, he picks me up at the airport. He wants to take me to his home country, that he sees our lives together. He told his friends that we are already talking marriage, although we haven't. He says that I complete him (corny), that he can die a happy man now, that he loves the way I adore him, that he loves being a part of my life. He wants to meet my family, talk to my dad.

I'm just totally overwhelmed and I am falling for him and I will be deeply in love with him. Those of you that know me know that I want to be in a committed relationship, I've just recently started to consider marrying again. He excites me, everything about him appeals to me, his spirituality, the way he interacts with others, the way he looks, dresses, smells, he is just amazing in bed, our chemistry is out of this world.

But then, sometimes in between the effusiveness, he gets quiet and I get worried and then he comes back with how much he adores and loves me and hates being without me. He wants me to try and telecommute from where he lives. Then occasionally he's very quiet and I wonder, did he change his mind?

Is this for real? I want it to be, he says that he's nothing without me, what is that all about? I'm definitely something without him. He's not born here, is this normal for his culture? I love all of it but I do think that as quickly as he fell in, he could fall out. He says that he slept with his ex wife on the first date and stayed married to her for 11 years. He's opening a business and wants me to join, he wants us to work together and do projects together. I told him that I want to go live overseas at some point and he said he would, without a doubt, go with me.

I don't think he's lying about any of this, I just wonder if he can sustain it. And why do I worry so much, he's so effusive and pays so much attention to me that any change in that behavior and I start to freak out and think he's changed his mind. Today he texted me bfore I woke up, called me to say he loved me so much, texted me again to tell me the same and that he wanted me to call him, but when I did he was distant and quiet. I know he was just tired but I suddenly start to think, there he goes, he's changed his mind.

I'm insecure, I want to be in love with him and want him to love me. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Does it sound real, good, worrisome? Can it be for real? I'm so hurt by my last relationship that I always feel that I'm going to do or say something wrong and he'll just leave me. To me, this is ideal, I just keep thinking that shortly, he will burn out or change his mind.[/QUOTE]


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The relationship fireworks, love, great sex, talking of marriage and other
committments! I know it feels wonderful and yes from experience.

It sounds really important to you to maintain a relationship with your
man. Nothing wrong with that. I see you are very interested and have
feelings for him and visa versa. That is really nice also.

Do you feel a quiet satisfaction when you both are together or does
it feel more like an intense mountain climb with lots of excitement of
reaching the top?

How much do you know about his past? Why he divorced with his
last wife etc?

I think you both should experience more together with just daily
things. Not the rushed end of things. With genuine relationships
time is a good thing. Share more of life experiences together,
because they will unfold and happen and wouldn't you like to
have a better feel of things as you go along?



Enjoy your time together but get to know him much better!

That is my input.

Little ole Janaly

p.s. something from your posting rings loud to me of a possible
question factor with you fella. I hope it is not so. Just a passing
moment I guess.

Also be just a little careful of your man asking for money...for a
sick relative etc. Do not cash any checks for him would be another
little suggestion. Also do not deposit any money orders for him
into your account. There would be a possibility he might ask you
to wire funds to him once he got back to his country. Please just
be very very careful. But don't lose your happiness with your fella
just because of my comments ok.

Did you by chance meet him on a dating website? Nothing
wrong with that. I was just wondering?





Keep us posted and let us know how things are going for you
Reba. I have not yet read the other posts on your thread but
will do so now.

I wish you both the best if things continue to more forward and
you are happy than that would be wonderful.





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