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This is the first time I have ever posted but I am at the end of my tether and I can't take it anymore. Please if anyone can help and give me their opinion I would be very grateful.
I am from the Uk and moved to the USA as a boyfriend from when I was 15 found me on classmates I am 45 now.. I was in a marriage that I was unhappy in. I have 4 chilldren. I ended up leaving my ex husband and basically gave up everything to be with my now husband,including my chldren. Very soon into our relationship I noticed him checking out women every where that we went. I tred to ignore ths but t hurt me so bad inside. It seems like eveyr where we go he looks at women.When I eventually mentioned it he denied it. He says he has not looked at anyone since we have beeen together But I know what I saw. I don't want to go anywhere anymore because I get so upset.
During the first few months I also became aware that he seemed to like watching movies, documentaries etc on porn stars, prostitutes and strippers. I became more and more insecure and felt I was not good enough. Now it has been 2 years and I cannot get the thoughts of these programmes out of my head. I cannot even bare it when a tv advert comes on with a girl in a bikini or a Victoria Secrets ad. Iget extremely upset. I hate foing to the stores because all the magazines with women in bikinis. Nearly everything that is on the tv has either a naked girl or scantilly clad girl and I feel so bad and sick to my stomach. I just cry all the time it is destroyng me inside.
We argue on a daily basis because I now don't feel good enough. When I came to the USA I was a different woman. When I first came here he didn't like any of my clothes and said they were too revealing yet he chose to look at other women dressed like that. I stopped wearing my clothes because I loved him.
All our arguments are over these things he chose to watch and he always says he didn't want to see these programmes because of naked women, he says he did it because there was nothing else to watch on tv. To me that is a ridiculous answer and I don't believe him. It is making me ill and I feel like I am not good enough. I cannot believe that he didn't want to see those women. He says he just wants me and I am imaginning it all. I cannot take it anymore. He puts me down when we argue and tells me I am thick and stupid and he is always saying I am crazy. Please help me
[QUOTE=EllieMay8;4250162]This is the first time I have ever posted but I am at the end of my tether and I can't take it anymore. Please if anyone can help and give me their opinion I would be very grateful.
I am from the Uk and moved to the USA as a boyfriend from when I was 15 found me on classmates I am 45 now.. I was in a marriage that I was unhappy in. I have 4 chilldren. I ended up leaving my ex husband and basically gave up everything to be with my now husband,including my chldren. Very soon into our relationship I noticed him checking out women every where that we went. I tred to ignore ths but t hurt me so bad inside. It seems like eveyr where we go he looks at women.When I eventually mentioned it he denied it. He says he has not looked at anyone since we have beeen together But I know what I saw. I don't want to go anywhere anymore because I get so upset.
During the first few months I also became aware that he seemed to like watching movies, documentaries etc on porn stars, prostitutes and strippers. I became more and more insecure and felt I was not good enough. Now it has been 2 years and I cannot get the thoughts of these programmes out of my head. I cannot even bare it when a tv advert comes on with a girl in a bikini or a Victoria Secrets ad. Iget extremely upset. I hate foing to the stores because all the magazines with women in bikinis. Nearly everything that is on the tv has either a naked girl or scantilly clad girl and I feel so bad and sick to my stomach. I just cry all the time it is destroyng me inside.
We argue on a daily basis because I now don't feel good enough. When I came to the USA I was a different woman. When I first came here he didn't like any of my clothes and said they were too revealing yet he chose to look at other women dressed like that. I stopped wearing my clothes because I loved him.
All our arguments are over these things he chose to watch and he always says he didn't want to see these programmes because of naked women, he says he did it because there was nothing else to watch on tv. To me that is a ridiculous answer and I don't believe him. It is making me ill and I feel like I am not good enough. I cannot believe that he didn't want to see those women. He says he just wants me and I am imaginning it all. I cannot take it anymore. He puts me down when we argue and tells me I am thick and stupid and he is always saying I am crazy. Please help me[/QUOTE]

Yes you really do need to check into getting on some medications.

If casually looking at other women and T.V. ads are the biggest problems you have with your husband, you should consider yourself lucky. :rolleyes:





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