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Okay here is my situation, my girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half. We are still pretty young, and she wants to find out what else is out there. And let me get this straight, she is not a whore, we lost our virginity to each other and both hold that very important because we both didn't want to until marriage, but .. anyways no more details. Lately she hasn't been feeling the vibe as much and wants to date other guys. Me being a passive guy, said I was okay with it. So she does it.

- Side note: We don't really socialize outside of our relationship, we have friends and all but we don't really go anywhere without each other much. This is the firs ttime she went out with out me in a very very long time.

Back to the information. She went out with her friends and they meet some guys. They start talking and then she said that she met a guy. I was jaw dropped. I flipped and was about to blow a gasket. I wanted to kill someone after that. And ever since she met him they've been talking when I was sleeping and stuff and when I call she doesnt reply or pick up like she usually does. Then they start hanging out I haven't seen her in couple days. Usually we hang out every weekend. She doesn't reply quickly when shes with them. And this is killing me inside, and she said shes hurting too because she doesn't want to let me go but doesnt want me to date other girls at the same time.

I dont want any other girl and could see us getting married and I am so deep into this, a majority of her family knows. And my family knows, I enjoy the company of her family and all. And it really hurts to see that I could lose all of this. I do not know what to do. What do I do, and i keep bringing up the situation when we do talk. Example: Is he better than me? Does he make you happier than I do? What makes him better than me? Stuff like that and she gets mad. I should be the one mad. But I do not want to see the one I love with someone else. She says they are only friends. And that she doesn't want to hop right into another relationship. But idk what to do or think.

Oh and I pay for her phone. She tells me that I should just cut it off. But idk.
This is a very unhealthy and very unfair situation. I think you need to stop being so passive and take control of your own happiness.

Obviously, an open relationship is not for you. You don't want to be in a relationship with a woman who is dating other men while you stay home alone eating your heart out, nor should you. That's very unhealthy and incredibly unfair to you. You both are young, and perhaps both of you need to see other people. But if you don't want to be in a relationship with her while she goes off and dates other men, then DON'T. You've heard the saying? If yo love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't it never was. You need to love her enough to let her go. She needs to be free to go and date other men if that's what she feels she needs to do, but she doesn't have the right to hang onto you and expect you not to date other women while she does it. That's called having your cake and eating it too, and that's just not how the world works. Besides, how much respsect do you think she can have for you if you are so willing to let her walk all over you like this, and sit at home while she dates and does who knows what with other guys, driving yourself crazy. If you let her go, then she'll be free to date other men and you can get her out of your mind and get on with your life, because if she's not "yours" anymore, then who she's kissing or making out with is none of your business. But as long she's coming back home to you, it IS your business, and that's what makes it so unhealthy.

If she doesn't feel it for you, letting her walk all over you will not make her stay. She'll find someone else whether you break up with her or not if that's what she's meant to do. You need to do what's best for you, and that's doing what's healthy, and that means stop making yourself crazy over who she's dating or kissing or whatever. Let her go do her thing, and accept that's what she needs to do, and you need to move on with your life, maybe reuniting with her someday, maybe not. But her dating around while hanging onto you while you sit at home alone going crazy is no good. that just needs to stop. Time to grow a pair and stand up for yourself by letting her go, with love and respect for what she needs to do, and respect for yourself as well. No hate, no anger, just letting go and accpeptance for how things have to be, at least for now.





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