It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Relationship Health Message Board


Relationship Health Board Index


I need advice...please! :)

I dated Chad for 2 and a half years...we broke up at the end of August...it was a very friendly break up, mutual...we both knew (all along, i think) we weren't right for each other: he's Jewish, i'm not; he wants kids, i don't; i like to cuddle, he doesn't; my bed is soft, his was hard, heheh...the list goes on...

We stayed together cause neither of us wanted more at that particular time in our lives, and we had a good time together since we enjoyed the same recreational activities...

When we broke up we agreed that we would sever all contact for a while to give us both closure, time to get used it, etc...although we weren't made for each other, we cared alot about each other since we had been dating so long...

I met Charlie 3 weeks after the breakup with Chad and we've been together since, so about 3 months now...He is incredible! we have so much in common, we get along great, everything is happy...

Chad emailed out of nowhere yesterday to say he'd gotten a new job - the first contact we've had...I emailed back to say congrats and he emailed back to say he wanted to get together - wants to come over to my place so we can get caught up...

Now, I know I can be friends and only friends with Chad, but I want to do right by my current wonderful boyfriend, Charlie...I haven't told Charlie anything about this yet, we have never discussed much about past relationships, so you all reading this know more about Chad than he does! I don't really know how to tell him that my ex of 2.5 years wants to come over! I put myself in Charlie's shoes and I know I would not like it if the situation were reversed...and Charlie has told me before that he was cheated on in a past relationship, so I do NOT want to give him ANY reason to distrust me...

Charlie lives about 45 minutes away, so it's not feasible to have him be there if Chad comes over during the week, I thought of that already...

Another option I thought of was to email Chad and tell him that my boyfriend's band is playing and why doesn't he come out to see the band and we could have a drink and get caught up...that way, it'd be less pressure on us both in a more social situation, right? AND he'd know and Charlie would know that I am into Charlie but would like to be friends with Chad...how does that sound?

The only other thing is that the band won't be playing til 12/28...two more weeks...should I go on and tell Chad i'll see him then??

SORRY SO LONG! any advice is desperately needed, and appreciated! :)





All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:16 PM.





2019 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!