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Well, it has been 4 weeks since I broke up with my gf of 2 years and 3 months. We told each other all the time that we loved each other and that we were going to marry each other. I am 21, and she is almost 23.

I found out from her younger sister and one of her friends that she kissed an ex. That is when I broke up with her.

We were only separated once, she broke up with me over spring break but came back to me a week or two later after she had time alone. She said she made the biggest mistake of her life. I forgave her.

So now, throughout these last couple of weeks, we weren't really talking. Then on Friday the 15th of August I called her and told her I wanted to support her and be there for her. For the first couple of weeks she told me that she wanted time to figure things out with a job and not date any guys. She also told me she still loved me. And I still love her. Then, the next Saturday, because she has been lying to me I wanted to figure things out. I found out she had been calling a number a lot. Turns out that she was seeing this new guy, a different one than who she cheated on me with. I asked her that Friday if she was dating anyone or anything, and she said no. Then, Saturday when I confronted her, she told me she had been with this guy a lot. And that they had kissed, and more. I asked if they had sex, and she didn't answer or give me any details. She didn't say yes, but did tell me that they had done more than kissed.

I can't get over her. I have tried so hard. I have all the e-mails she ever gave me and they all say the same thing - she wants to be with me for the rest of my life. She never did say why she cheated on me in the first place, or why she is with this new guy. Her family doesn't seem to like me very much, but that never got in the way before. I actually like her family.

She isn't talking to any of her former friends, and she doesn't want to just step back and realize what she is doing.

I can't seem to let go. I still love her. I can't stand the fact that she is with another guy, who is even younger than I am. She was such a sweet girl, and one that I would have spent the rest of my life with. We had everything planned. Why does it all change so fast?

And why can't I get rid of the pain? Why can't I get rid of the love? My parents don't think she is the one for me. They don't want me even talking to her. We don't talk since that Saturday. She even came over and dropped off a computer I gave her. She didn't say anything to me and didn't even look me in the eyes. She left crying.

Why doesn't she care? Why can't she grow up and take responsibility for her actions?

And why do I still want to be with her? My parents think it will go away, and that I just have to let it go. But I am beginning to think that I won't be able to.

She was my first long term relationship. She was my first girl I had ever slept with. We shared a lot of "firsts" both sexually and emotionally. How can she just stop loving me? Turn on me? I really feel that if she can do this, then anyone can. She was a good person. But now I see her only as bad. And she doesn't even seem to care. So why do I care so much?

If you need any more information, let me know and I will reply.

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