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...but I'm not sure where else to post.

If anyone would like to give me non-physical health related advice, please read below.

Alright, to make a long(er) story short, as of 19 months ago, my mom and my step dad seperated because he claimed he didn't love her anymore, and had been cheating on her with a 19 year old for a year.

Now, my mom and step dad had been together for 15 years, and I'm 17, so you can see why I had always considered him as my real Dad since I never really had much contact with my biological father.

When he seperated with my mom, he was a mess. He even wanted to commit suicide. Now that he claims he has his "life back on track", and still does not love my mom, nor is getting back into our imediate family... he called me tonight.
He asked me if I wanted to go to dinner. I was shocked, because I've barely spoken to him for 19 months, since I was angry at him for what he had done.

Although I'm not angry anymore, I feel as though I cannot pursue a relationship with him because of the time that has gone by, and I've already healed.

Is it unfair of him to ask me to dinner? Should I go?
I asked two people for advice. My older sister, who said that I should ABSOLUTELY not go, because of how he treated us. And my mother, who says that I should give him another chance because of the hard time he's gone through. I also asked my boyfriend, who says that my most valid opinion is my sister's, since it is the opinion who would be closest to mine.

If I don't go, what should I say to him? Because if I do go, he's just going to break my heart.

My sister said to say VERY bluntly that I don't want any part of him... I feel that I should break it to him nicely. (if I don't go).

I'm SOOO confused. If anyone has any advice, it would be greatly appreciated. He's calling me TOMORROW night!


(p.s. sorry for the disorganization, I'm just flustered)

(p.p.s. if it's any consolation, I'm a 17 year old girl who is moving out in next fall anyway...)

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