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[QUOTE=Belly Kelly;4652973]Well, you move home for a bit. If you find you are not happy and want to be with your girlfriend still, then you can always move back to France. However, be sure to give yourself plenty of time if you move back home. You might feel lonely at first, esp. if you don't have a girlfriend around all the time. Don't confuse the loneliness with your decision. Everything is an adjustment.
Of course, I could be wrong and you might be able to reconnect with old friends, start dating new people, and be completely happy. Good luck with your decision.[/QUOTE]

The thing is she will not allow me this time at home...I told her when I was at home over xmas I needed time to stay and think about what to do and she went mad saying that I finished with her?! SO, I didnt want that to be the case so I convinced myself that I wanted to be here with her and came back. Now I am starting to be lost again! Not just because of her, but the environment. I wonder what if I was at home with all the things I have known for my life. I guess travelling and living abroad is for some, but not all. Either way I will have regrets - at home I will think what if I was here with her, and here with her, what if I was at home!!

Very tough situation!
[QUOTE=outlandish;4653550]The thing is she will not allow me this time at home...I told her when I was at home over xmas I needed time to stay and think about what to do and she went mad saying that I finished with her?!
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I'm sorry, Outlandish that you're in this very hard situation. I know that you love a woman who knows what she wants in life and in a relationship--- but this just sounds controlling. I think you should go home. Yes, you'll miss her because you quite clearly love her. You will likely be lonely, but please don't go back because of lonliness. There are loads of other girls out there, and you have friends and family (I'm assuming- since that's why you miss home?) that can offer you support.

You said that her looks andthe fact that she's take charge are parts of why you love her. She isn't "take charge". She's controlling, especially if she won't "allow" you to take a break and figure out what you want in life. C'mon- allow? Really? And looks... I'm sorry, but looks fade. Twenty, fifteen, ten or even five years down the road, she could look completely different. No. Eventually, she WILL look completely different.

Maybe you're not ready to break it off or take a "breather break" yet, but can you live like this for the rest of your life? Making ALL of the sacrifices, letting her call all the shots? It's called compromise. Relationships take work, and it just seems like she's only wanting to do the easy thing and manipulate (make no mistake she IS manipulating you) until she gets her way.

I know you love her. I know. But for what it's worth- it takes a heck of a lot more than love to make a relationship work long term.





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