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Hi, I do not know if this is the proper board to post this on, but I do not know where to go or who to turn to.
I live with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Our relationship has never been great, but sometimes its good for awhile, but then our problems pop back up with a vengance. The thing is, I love him dearly but he has sex issues. He has been asking me since we met if I would have a threesome with him. I always said I would think about it, but I'm really not comfortable though. I had cancer years ago with multiple surgeries and chemo/radiation. My body has scars and the radiation left me with chronic swelling in my leg, so I have self esteem issues about my body. He always tells me I look great, but I don't believe him. I think he only says it to get me to do what he wants. Well, it has now gotten to the point where he becomes pushy about it. He keeps telling me he NEEDS to see me have sex with someone else, and if I not going to be with another man for him, I have to bring home a girl. I'm not a "prude" as he always calls me, nor am I boring, but he's hurting me and doesn't understand that when I am ready, IF I am ever ready, I will let him now. He tells me he doesn't want to be with me if I don't do it, and he even told me recently that I'd better work on finding a guy in the next few weeks to have sex with me in front of him. I keep thinking this will go away, but it seems to be getting worse with time. I wish he would get help, but he just says "this is me, and if you don't like it, then don't be with me". The truth is, I have left him several times, but every time I leave, he begs for me to come back and tells me it won't happen anymore and he's happy just being with me, and he won't bring it up anymore, but of course, it always comes up again. I feel like he is my pimp more than he is my boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I really don't have anywhere to go either since the only family I have is now in GA and I live in NY. Everytime I leave, I have to pack and move my entire life to GA. It's not easy and very frustrating since I just want to be settled and in a place I can call home without thinking I'm going to leave again soon, but he always manages to get me back. I know it's mostly my fault. I believe him when he tells me he won't push me into having sex with other men, and I believe him because I'm still in love with him. He has also forced me to have sex with him and says a boyfriend can't rape his girlfriend, which I know is BS. He has also made me do things with him sexually that I was not comfortable with and tells me to take it like a good little wh*re. I feel abused and don't know how to end this for good. What should I do. Please help.:confused:
[QUOTE=sharona714;4706231]Hi, I do not know if this is the proper board to post this on, but I do not know where to go or who to turn to.
I live with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Our relationship has never been great, but sometimes its good for awhile, but then our problems pop back up with a vengance. The thing is, I love him dearly but he has sex issues. He has been asking me since we met if I would have a threesome with him. I always said I would think about it, but I'm really not comfortable though. I had cancer years ago with multiple surgeries and chemo/radiation. My body has scars and the radiation left me with chronic swelling in my leg, so I have self esteem issues about my body. He always tells me I look great, but I don't believe him. I think he only says it to get me to do what he wants. Well, it has now gotten to the point where he becomes pushy about it. He keeps telling me he NEEDS to see me have sex with someone else, and if I not going to be with another man for him, I have to bring home a girl. I'm not a "prude" as he always calls me, nor am I boring, but he's hurting me and doesn't understand that when I am ready, IF I am ever ready, I will let him now. He tells me he doesn't want to be with me if I don't do it, and he even told me recently that I'd better work on finding a guy in the next few weeks to have sex with me in front of him. I keep thinking this will go away, but it seems to be getting worse with time. I wish he would get help, but he just says "this is me, and if you don't like it, then don't be with me". The truth is, I have left him several times, but every time I leave, he begs for me to come back and tells me it won't happen anymore and he's happy just being with me, and he won't bring it up anymore, but of course, it always comes up again. I feel like he is my pimp more than he is my boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I really don't have anywhere to go either since the only family I have is now in GA and I live in NY. Everytime I leave, I have to pack and move my entire life to GA. It's not easy and very frustrating since I just want to be settled and in a place I can call home without thinking I'm going to leave again soon, but he always manages to get me back. I know it's mostly my fault. I believe him when he tells me he won't push me into having sex with other men, and I believe him because I'm still in love with him. He has also forced me to have sex with him and says a boyfriend can't rape his girlfriend, which I know is BS. He has also made me do things with him sexually that I was not comfortable with and tells me to take it like a good little wh*re. I feel abused and don't know how to end this for good. What should I do. Please help.:confused:[/QUOTE]





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