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[QUOTE=MsConfused;4726819]So I'm in a situation with a guy that I'm not sure I can even call dating. We've been hanging out with each other for two months now about 6 days a week. We are intimate and I've met his brother and his parents. He hasn't met my mother yet, but that is usually because she is at work.


So how do I go about this gently? Do I put in hints? I don't want to play any games with him, I would hate that if he did it to me. What do I say? For a girl I am conversationally kind of dumb. I'm not good with talking to people. Help![/QUOTE]

You only went out with him for 2 months. Well maybe you could give him more time. Seeing family this quick may not mean it will work out. But sometimes it works this fast.
I am on the old-fashioned side - only men chase women kind of thing....
So I will say first of all you make sure he is sincere dating you (e.g., not married or has other dates or gf.) Once the field is clear and you know it is a close relationship or one on one relationship, then you can continue to date him to know him more. The thing is it is the guy who has to tell you he loves you and would like to date you and get serious. A gal waits a little bit until it takes too long to know what is going on. In the old times, if the guy never expresses that he wants to go serious or steady, then the girl just leaves like nothing happened. Did you know that even my Dad and Mom only said they were friends - but never boyfriend and girlfriend? They are in the age of 80s.

Anyway, it sounds passive but if the guy really wants you, and is not too shy about it, he will let you know. Until then, don't get too serious because it would not be mutual.

Take care,
Nina
[QUOTE=ninamarc;4741138]
I am on the old-fashioned side - only men chase women kind of thing....
So I will say first of all you make sure he is sincere dating you (e.g., not married or has other dates or gf.) Once the field is clear and you know it is a close relationship or one on one relationship, then you can continue to date him to know him more. The thing is it is the guy who has to tell you he loves you and would like to date you and get serious. A gal waits a little bit until it takes too long to know what is going on. In the old times, if the guy never expresses that he wants to go serious or steady, then the girl just leaves like nothing happened.

Anyway, it sounds passive but if the guy really wants you, and is not too shy about it, he will let you know. Until then, don't get too serious because it would not be mutual.

Take care,
Nina[/QUOTE]

I know that he is not seeing anyone else. I wouldn't date him if he was.

Most people tell me that it is the girl that has to initiate the relationship because the guy won't do it. He will think everything is fine as it is. But you say the complete opposite. I don't know what to think. This whole situation is stressing me out.:(





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