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Re: Relationship
Jun 26, 2011
My ex-husband and I have always enjoyed this type of friendship.
We were friends long before we became romantically involved; we have children together. We will never stop being friends, even though we're both remarried and both have children with our new partners.
If either of our new partners had an issue with this, I doubt they would've lasted very long.
If you don't feel you can live with the fact that your boyfriend is still close friends with his ex-wife and the mother of his child, then i think you should leave this relationship. Your jealousy is only going to push him toward her even more.
Your other choice is to make friends with her yourself.
My ex's new wife is a good friend of mine now, and my ex-husband and my current husband are quite friendly as well. It's all in the best interest of the kids, and in everyone else's best interest as well.
Remember, if you marry him, you will become the legal stepmother of this woman's child, and have some authority and power over this child. I'll bet she is eager to have you on her side, to be your friend and have you like her and her child, for that reason if for no other.
Also keep in mind that when you have children, they will be half-siblings with this other woman's child. That's another reason you should strive for a cordial- not just civil but [I]cordial[/I], friendly- relationship with her. Because she has a child with your boyfriend/husband, she is part of your extended family now, and you are part of hers, whether you like it or not.
If you can't handle that, as I said, I believe you should leave your boyfriend and look for a partner who is childless.

Best wishes.

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