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My fiance and I have been together 7 years. I am 25 and he is 26. Our relationship is good for the most part. We definitely do our share of arguing but things are pretty ok between us. If anything, things have gotten a little dull.

I recently started talking to two men from my past. One is an old high school friend. The other an ex coworker. The coworker contacted me out of the blue. He asked if I wanted to have coffee one night. We didn't end up going for coffee but we have been text messaging each other, things have gotten a little flirty. I contacted the old high school friend because he owns a renovation business and I needed a quote. I didn't end up using his business but only because my fiance felt weird about it, this guy has made it known that he has a thing for me. Since I contacted him he has been messaging me almost on a daily basis with things like "good morning, hows your day going?" etc.

I do love my fiance but I have been wondering what it would be like to be with either of these two guys (not sexually). I wonder what a relationship would be like with them and I have been comparing them to my fiance.

So far I haven't met up with either of them in person and I am not sure that either knows that I am engaged. The text messages are like I said a bit flirty and I am reciprocating.

I am not physically attracted to the guy from high school. He just isn't my type but I do feel like we have a lot in common and he seems like a really nice guy. I could see myself having a relationship with him.

I don't want to cheat. I have never cheated on my fiance, or in any relationship. However I am enjoying the excitement of talking to new people.

I did tell my fiance about the text messages (leaving out the flirty parts). I told him that I wouldn't mind being friends with these guys (particularly the one from high school). My fiance says that men do not seek friendships with women without an ulterior motive, that motive of course being sex. I do feel like that is were both of these conversations with these two guys are going. The ex coworker has made joking references to us having sex, I think he is testing the waters.

I don't know.... A part of me says that I need to stop communicating with these guys before it goes too far or someone gets hurt... another part of me is loving this... I love the curiosity, giggling over silly text messages, feeling desired. I just can't stop thinking about what it would be like to be in a new relationship with a new person. It is exciting. I do feel a connection with the high school guy.

Sometimes I feel like I stay with my fiance because its comfortable. It's safe. I just don't want to do anything that I'll regret, either way. I don't want to cheat, I will regret that. I don't want to lose my fiance for something shiny and new only to realize that he was my one. That I'll never love anyone the way I loved him. I also don't want to stay with my fiance only to realize that I am not truly happy. That maybe I would have been happier with someone else.

My fiance was my first 'real' boyfriend. The first guy I ever loved. I just don't know how compatible we are. Do I stay because its too hard to let go?

I am really confused. I don't want anyone to get hurt.





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