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Angry other half
Aug 6, 2011
hi everyone,
im quite new to this so im taking a longshot with anyone that can make any suggestions or help me at all id be ever so greatful

i been going out with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now and everythings been brilliant....but the guy has such bad anger problems im a bit worried how i havent picked up on it before. he will get angry over the most ridiculous things....believe it or not he gets angry that i go gym that i train...and ok i do the odd boxing class here and there but i cant understand why he gets so frustrated....we have had arguments over things like this and not spoken and he's said he doesnt like me doing activities like that...or shall i say in his words...'not for girls' which i think is rubbish.

recently, he has managed to sit and talk to me about wat has been bothering him the most. he has noticed many timees where we have gone out to eat or chill or cinemas anyhing the usual things that couples do...but he has seen other guys looking at me as well in an unappropraite manor. its sad coz i love him a lot with all my heart i hate that society is filled with ppl who just gawp at you but i cant change the way i am all i know is that i would never wana leave him coz he has a big heart and loves me too...he looks after me well....but its bothering him sooo much to a point wer we havent realli been going out as much as we used too...simply becoz he said he most likely is at tipping point to start on someone if they look at me.

i dont know what to do...his anger on this is really bad and he has told me he would not want me to chnage the way i look for anyone and i said the same to him before too...i take no notice of those outside since i been with him i have never looked at another guy he truly makes me happy and i want to help him with this anger.... but he has said that there is a chance we may break up becoz it is that hard for him to love me and tolerate stuff from the outside world....or how do i help this?:( i know its his issue and many pepople i guess would leave....but i am willing and prepared to help him at any measure. any suugestions would be so greatful.
I know that you won't believe me now, but your boyfriend leaving you could potentially be the best thing that has ever happened to you. I can't see there being ANY WAY you can help him. He is jealous and controlling and that is usually something that does not get better in relationships, it gets worse.
I am glad that you are looking for answers. My answer to you is to get out of this relationship. I'm so sorry, I know that is not the answer you are hoping for.

God bless you, honey, Sue
[QUOTE=slenderella;4817410]I know that you won't believe me now, but your boyfriend leaving you could potentially be the best thing that has ever happened to you. I can't see there being ANY WAY you can help him. He is jealous and controlling and that is usually something that does not get better in relationships, it gets worse.
I am glad that you are looking for answers. My answer to you is to get out of this relationship. I'm so sorry, I know that is not the answer you are hoping for.

God bless you, honey, Sue[/QUOTE]

hiya..i think ur totally right thank you so much..i know it sounds silly but sometime it just needs to be heard from someone else...ive never signed up to a forum or chat or anything like this, this is the first so you can imagine how much i been struggling...like my older cousin has said the same thing and my best mate has said the same thing too...if it was anything else...i guess i could help it...but because i AM involved as being the problem with other guys looking at me...i find it hard to understand that its not my fault and somehow manage blaming myself for a lot when all i been doing is trying to help him and be the type of girl he never had,,,by simply being myself..

what makes things worse...is that it takes him ages to actually talk a problem over i think he tries to avoid things just so we dont end up arguing but he doesnt realise that is the root of our problems..:(
and like now....ive distanced myself away from him jus callin him less txting him less seeing if he realises the damage that he will bring on himself becuase he carries on like nothing ever happend...:(
im 20 and he is 22 im finishin uni in 8 months and just wanted to be with someone like him that would look after me and jus be in a normal relation like anybody else...didnt realise relationships could have such problems :(

thank you for ur reply...it doesnt matter to me what replies i get becuase all replies to me are helpful and i feel happier that someone is reading this and seeing it as i do :)





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