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Hi, I'm new to the forum, and am in sever need of some level headed advice.

I'm 20, and I live with my 29yr old boyfriend. We've been a couple for 14 months, living together for 8 months. Idealic scenario, both working, got a house, nice car, hardly ever argue and we both get on with the other's family.

In June we bought 2 kittens, he has never had pets before and I thought it would be a nice to have a little family of our own.
Ever since we got them, his anger is getting worse by the week. It'll start off with something stupid, e.g one of the kittens will use their tray for a number 2 and he'll flip off about the smell, and he will throw things around the room, slam doors and has smashed a few things in the house.

Now it's been going on for months but this week he has lost his temper severly twice and that's unusual. His mum is going having breast cancer treatment and his aunt (who he wasn't overly close to) recently passed away, so i'm thinking this may be linked to it.
I have previously been in a violent relationship, so I don't want to worry my mum by talking to her, but I'm so scared that he is going to either hurt one of the kittens, hurt himself or hurt me. Part of me thinks i should put the kittens up for adoption, but i'm so attached to them that the thought of giving them away breaks my heart.
I have considered leavng the house for a few days but I dont want to risk leaving him for several days alone with them incase they spark another fit of rage and i'm not here to stop it.
He also gets angry about small things, such as clutter on the work surfaces, which he then proceeds to throw across the room.

I would move out, but I cannot afford to, non of my family can take me in, and non of my friends could have me and the kittens. I don't want to talk to anyone we both know as I don't want them to judge him or worry. Other than these fits of rage, he's the picture perfect boyfriend.

I'm at a loss as to what to do, he does scare me when he gets like this, and I don't want it to get to a point that it's too late to sort out.

Any help will be very much appreciated.

Thankyou for reading. x





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