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[QUOTE=Scribbler128;4930419]Hi CadenceA :wave: Thanks for your reply. Yes, I would have liked an apology for the lies, the cheating, leading me on etc. I'm working on the therapy.[/QUOTE]

Well, I know this can be frowned upon, but maybe we need a different approach, the important thing being to put your mind at ease and accepting the hard reality.

To begin with, remember that all people are not equal. What feels right to you may not feel right for them for different reasons. Even cheating or stealing (go figure) may sound the right thing to do for some people. Don't ask me how, but that is the way it often happens. I have seen it. Therefore, it's a sad maybe even cruel realization that the good things you do to another person may not be reciprocated.

So what I am trying to tell you is that this guy has not the same values as yourself. I am not saying that he is right or wrong, but I am just saying that he was not right for you. Or in other words: you were incompatible, you belonged to different worlds. It wouldn't work in the long way, so please feel relieved that he is gone. I know I know, relief and pain together, but then again relief - just think more about the relief and the pain will be ready to go away. I hope.

Silly as it may seem, try to see if your next partner is, astrologically speaking, a good match for you. You don't have to use only Western Astrology, but Chinese Astrology can also be helpful. Of course you will not base all your decisions on what the stars are telling you, LOL, but it is a good starting point if you lack one.

By the way, have you looked up today? What was the sky looking like? Blue or cloudy? Find an interest in nature around yourself, look how beautiful the world can be, this will make you feel better.

Enough said.
[QUOTE=pendulum;4930430]To begin with, remember that all people are not equal. What feels right to you may not feel right for them for different reasons. Even cheating or stealing (go figure) may sound the right thing to do for some people. Don't ask me how, but that is the way it often happens. I have seen it. Therefore, it's a sad maybe even cruel realization that the good things you do to another person may not be reciprocated.[/QUOTE]

This is true.

[QUOTE=pendulum;4930430]So what I am trying to tell you is that this guy has not the same values as yourself. I am not saying that he is right or wrong, but I am just saying that he was not right for you. Or in other words: you were incompatible, you belonged to different worlds. It wouldn't work in the long way, so please feel relieved that he is gone. I know I know, relief and pain together, but then again relief - just think more about the relief and the pain will be ready to go away. I hope.[/QUOTE]

When he first told me about there being someone else, I was angry and so happy for him to gone. But as time passes, I miss him more and wish things were different. I still think he's the best boyfriend I've ever had. Just the ending was so bad. So I can't be thankful he's gone. If I was, I wouldn't be feeling so sad right now.

[QUOTE=pendulum;4930430]Silly as it may seem, try to see if your next partner is, astrologically speaking, a good match for you. You don't have to use only Western Astrology, but Chinese Astrology can also be helpful. Of course you will not base all your decisions on what the stars are telling you, LOL, but it is a good starting point if you lack one.[/QUOTE]

Well, funny you should suggest this, we're not astrologically compatible :) I went against a lot of what I promised myself I'd never do to be with him. Ie, dating someone who had come out of a long term relationship, below a certain age and from a certain profession. But he seemed so sweet, so sincere and he worked very hard to earn my trust. I'll be sure not to go against my rules again in the future.

[QUOTE=pendulum;4930430]By the way, have you looked up today? What was the sky looking like? Blue or cloudy? Find an interest in nature around yourself, look how beautiful the world can be, this will make you feel better.[/QUOTE]

Surprisingly, the sky was very blue today :) Thanks, as always, Pendulum.





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