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Thank you all so much for your input; I was worried that I'd get no feedback.

Just to clear up an issue: there's no way she got tested because she thinks I'm cheating on her. You may say, there's no way you could know that, but trust me, I know. She knows exactly where I've been at every moment for at least the past five months—besides when I'm at work—and, there's been issues in the past where she'd been jealous about this and that. She makes it clearly known when she thinks there's an issue. Whatever other reason you may use to dispute this, forget it... I just know. So, let's take that off the table.

Clearing up another issue: the tests were altogether $800, but that was before insurance. They came out to around $115 afterwards (which still seems like a pretty hefty copay to me). I can't remember ever paying anything near $115 in copay for tests.

I realize that I need to talk to her, and I [I]am[/I] working up to it. I'd rather have some idea of this situation first before I confront her (if I do) about it though.

Yes, she did have cancerous cells, and she was normally supposed to routinely be getting them checked out (which she always procrastinated on doing). Another thing that adds to my suspicions is that she flew back to her home town for a weekend for one of her friend's wedding's, which was around three weeks before she got the test.

I guess the few factors that could lead to me knowing whether or not she cheated are as follows. Is that combination of tests routine for someone who's getting screened for cancer? When a woman's getting those tests, are the HIV and herpes tests also available, or would she have had to go to a different lab or something? If they are also easily available, then she [I]definitely[/I] would have gotten them, and we can see that she wasn't truly there seeking the STD testing—the doctor must have just recommended it, or just routinely performed them along with what else she was there for.

I'm sure there are other factors about this that can be evaluated in helping me discover the truth. But essentially, I'm trying to get a three-course-meal out of a grain of rice. I'm not sure if investigating such a small amount of information will ultimately lead to some catharsis, but thanks a lot for your help everyone... Let's keep it going, eh?

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