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My girlfriend and I have been together for over two years, in a long distance relationship. We've met each other in person once over that two year span and things went great. For the most part, our entire relationship was great and we hardly ever had any problems, whenever we did, they'd be over with within a day.

Fast forward to last week, we got into a fight and it blew up and she eventually told me she was done. She stopped talking to me for around 6-7 hours and then we started talking again and she basically told me that [B]if[/B] we're gonna get back together, I would need to make some drastic changes. One of the biggest reasons for this break was that I would cause a problem then turn around, apologize and promise I wouldn't do it again, then do the same thing over again.

This break started on the 5th of this month and things have been up and down since. She's told me that she still loves me, she doesn't want to be mad at me, and that she doesn't want to hate me or push her away. She's also told me that she's seen me improve, seen me change and has acknowledged the progress I've made. She's said a few times that she just wants some space. From like... the 6th up until the 9th or 10th, we would basically do everything that we normally did back when we were in a relationship. We'd talk on Xbox, talk on skype, talk on the phone before bed. We'd even say I love you to eachother. However, over the past 2-3 days, we haven't talked at all really. I'm trying my best to give her room but it pains me to do so.

The reason it stresses me out so much is because she recently started working a few weeks ago and there's a male coworker that seems as if he's trying to make a move on her. I, admittedly, used to snoop around in her Facebook messages, which she knew that I did and it didn't bother her up until we started taking this break and I've stopped since. I have caught wind of some things though, for instance she gets home around 7 AM (she works the night shift) and apparently her and this guy stayed up until around noon, webcamming on Skype.

I've always been a jealous boyfriend, I tried to push all of her friends away, whether they were male or female, because I was afraid they'd take her from me. It wasn't so much that I was afraid she'd leave me for someone else, it was more the other party. I don't trust other people. However, I've come to terms with the fact that she's going to have a personal life, she's going to make friends and guys are going to hit on her. I know that I have to trust her to turn these guys down and move on.

I don't know whether she's talking to this guy to keep her mind off of me, I don't know if she's developing feelings for this guy.

People have told me that she's told them she still loves me, acknowledges all of the progress I've made but she's told them that she doesn't feel much into it, that her heart isn't in it and/or that she feels like she doesn't want this anymore. I don't really know what to do. I want to keep giving her space but I'm terrified of losing her for good.

If anyone could help, please do so.

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