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Bored and lonely
Nov 27, 2012
Help! I can't seem to see any way out of this hopeless and painful situation. I have never been so bored in my life! I married 3 years ago and gave up my whole world (life in a big city, friends, a career) to move to a remote area to get married. The work I have found here is boring and it is wearing on me. My life is boring and I am not attracted to my boring husband. I got pregnant 5 weeks after being here and we now have a 2 year old son. Every day is dull and lonely. I haven't been able to find work anywhere nearby. My husband has no job skills that will translate to the city and anyway he won't look to change our situation anyway. I don't find any joy in life, I am in so much pain. I haven't been able to make that many friends here cause most people are bored and unhappy here too. We have nothing to talk about and no one wants to really talk about what it's like anyway. My poor little baby, I don't want to raise him here. I wish I could leave or find some way out but I can't leave because of my child. It is truly like being in a prison, any suggestions for how to reclaim joy in life?
so everything is boring? your work, your husband, your friends?
this is more a reflection on you than everyone else.......why are YOU bored?
find something to do......read, exercize, take up a hobby.......
it's not your surroundings......why are YOU bored?
[QUOTE=BeaTrade;5095525]What they say is if life hands you lemons, make lemonade! I find the exact opposite to be true as far as bored out in the country. I find living in the city totally boring and nothing to do...but then again I love working outside and hiking in the woods and that sort of thing. If you can't move then make the best of what you have.[/QUOTE]

Thank you for your reply, believe me, I've been trying desparately to make lemonade out of lemons, it is wearing me thin. I'm took a job here that I am extremely overqualified for which sort of feels like I'm banging my head against a wall. I bring a lot of value to the position and it feels absolutely thankless and a waste of my skills. I'm making about a third of what I made in the city which doesn't feel too good either. You are right, everyone is different, some people love the country and some do not. My husband is a country person and I am not. I'm trying to make the best of a bad situation. I get really down when I think of what my life could have been like if I'd stayed in the city, I don't see how we can move back, it's so expensive
[QUOTE=rosequartz;5095341]so everything is boring? your work, your husband, your friends?
this is more a reflection on you than everyone else.......why are YOU bored?
find something to do......read, exercize, take up a hobby.......
it's not your surroundings......why are YOU bored?[/QUOTE]
thank you for the feedback
yes, the work is pretty lonely and dull, no office comraderie, I can't find a job here and do freelance gigs on my own, there is no work in my field out here. I have no good friends here plus I can't really tell anyone how miserable i am in my marriage so it's hard getting close to anyone. I read, exercise and play tennis but there is no intellectual stimulation and it is understimulating here. I'm bored because I'm not living the life I chose, I let things choose me. I didn't pick to move here, I'm here cause of my husband. I also let him pick me, I settled in this marriage because I didn't think I could get anything better. This is not the life I want and I feel trapped and like I'm in prison. Does that make sense?





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