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I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year, and I am having a problem where she and her best friend are really close that is a bit too close for my comfort. She knew this guy before we started dating. Initially I had no problems with her having a male best friend - as long as the relationship stayed on the friendship level. But over some time I have grown a dislike for him ever since I realized that they text each other every day - from the morning until they wish each other goodnight. This isn't the only reason why I don't like this guy. Whenever I see him, I try to say hi to him, but most of the time, he pretends he doesn't even see me and when he does he just looks away. I told my girlfriend about it and that I found it disrespectful so she talked to him about it - he claimed that he does say hi and acknowledges me, i said ok fine, I probably mistaken.

The next day my girlfriend and I went to her friend's house for a gathering, and I saw him there. The first thing he does is approaches my girlfriend and says hi to her and hugs her while I just stand there and he does not even look at me - not even for me to have a chance to say hello. In fact, he did not say a word to me the entire night we were there. It is really starting to get on my nerves how this guy shows his respect to me and on top of that, he texts my girlfriend every day. Before you guys assume that I am "insecure" and that I am just over thinking things, there is a reason why I don't trust this guy. This guy always messages her stuff that is inappropriate, usually dirty jokes about her, etc. On top of that, there was one point where they were talking to each other about their intimate lives about how her ex boyfriend pulled her pants down and slapped her bottom etc. I talked to her about what they say to each other and she talked to him, and told him he needs to stop (with the jokes).

But the one thing that actually bothers the heck out of me is how much they talk to each other. Whenever she is over, I would always hear her phone ring from messages, and every time it is from the same guy. He never stops. She knows I hate it whenever she texts him while we are hanging out together but she does it anyways. It's like they have their own little relationship that I know nothing about. I don't know what they talk about, nor does she tell me what they talk about.

Today I brought up the fact that I see this guy everywhere at my school and that he is literally everywhere I go - even in my liberal class which hes not even enrolled in and she got annoyed. She started defending him saying "why do you hate him so much", "why can't you just say hi to him" and "you need to respect him, hes my best friend."

I've already told her I tried saying hi but he never looks at me or gives me an opportunity, my existence is like invisible to him. What do I do? How do I get her to stop texting him so much? It's like she chooses to defend him over me.

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