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This might be a little long so I apologize ahead of time. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and his parents and I have always gotten along. They would take me on trips, others family activities and would get me gifts on holidays; I really really liked them! All my issues with his parents started on Father's Day 2012. He had gotten into a fight with his mom that day and when dinner time came he just got the food and came back in his room so we could eat together because he didnt want to be around his mom, while the rest of his family was watching a basketball game in the living room with his dad. Everything seemed fine until an hour later when his mom walked in all calmly and asked if we were going out to the living room, and I let him answer being that it was his family and I try not to get involved in any issues he has with them, he knows how he wants to handle things with his family. He said he didn't want to and that woman went crazy.

She started throwing stuff like things in his room andthe food on the table he has set for us and saying terrible things to him and belittling our relationship, but I didn't pay much attention to what she was saying because she was mad and I understood, to a certain extent, why she was upset although I strongly felt she was over reacting. In the middle of her crazy rant she started attacking me when the situation had nothing to do with me in the first place. She told me to get out of her house and in the middle of gathering my things to leave she got in my face and was yelling "THAT MAN DOES EVERYTHING FOR YOU AND THIS IS HOW YOU REPAY HIM? I KNOW YOU DON'T HAVE A FATHER LIKE [insert boyfriends name]" and I'm not really sure what she said after that because I was blinded with rage. I didn't say anything back to her because I can be just as nasty as the next person, but she IS my boyfriends mother so I didn't want to make the situation worse.

I kept a calm face on because my boyfriend was furious that she went on to attack me and was getting in the middle of us so nothing else would happen and I didn't want both of us to be freaking out. At that point his brothers and dad came into the room to break everything up and his dad was hold his mom trying to get her out of the room. My boyfriend and I were leaving the house and she kept trying to get at us so we made our exit a quick one. He was SO mad so I took him home to my house so we could go to a calm place and I was still holding all my emotions in, when I got to my house I couldn't hold it in anymore I busted out crying. I was so angry and frustrated and I had nothing to take my emotions out on. I wanted nothing more than to punch my boyfriends mother in the face but I didn't because she IS my boyfriends mother. After everything calmed down his dad started blowing up both our phones and then he texted me with...actually I don't even know what it was, it was along the lines of I'm sorry his mom acted like that but it hurt my feeling you guys weren't out there with us so you deserved it.

A couple days later my boyfriend has forgiven his mother and she apologized to him but I had yet to hear an apology. A month passes, a month and a half, two months and still nothing. I ask my boyfriend if she's going to apologize and I have to pry an answer out of him, and he says that she feels she doesn't need to apologize because she didn't mean it the way I took it. Call me crazy but she should have apologized for bringing me into the argument period. About a month after that she finally decides she's going to apologize but she doesn't want to meet me somewhere to discuss it, she wants me to go and make the effort and drive to her house so I can receive her very late apology. I didn't go because I didn't feel like she was making an effort. My boyfriend got mad at me for not submitting to her demand of I must go to her place to receive the apology and I explained why and he said I should just get over it since it was a long time ago. It made me so mad that he wanted me to just brush over the sentence "I know you don't have a father."

The issue with his mom has been causing so many problems in our relationship so around Christmas time we went to the local fair and they met us there and when I finally got to the end of the row to finish giving hugs and kisses it was her turn and we hugged and she didn't let me go and she finally apologized. At that point I didn't even want an apology, the only thing I felt towards her was anger and resentment and that's just how I've been ever since. I felt like she twisted everything around to make me look like that bad one who never came around again. Now I can't stand it when my boyfriend says " my mom says...." Or "my parents" or pretty much anything that has to do with his mom or dad. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I feel bad my boyfriend has to go through this and I don't want this to be the death of our relationship but I just CAN'T STAND his parents, ESPECIALLY his mom. Can someone give me advice on how I should proceed from this situation? Again, I know this was lengthy, I'm sorry!

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