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Hello everyone , i will try to make this short. I was in a relationship with my ex-boyf for 8 1/2 years ( from 14 years old to 23, im 24 now). We broke up in August 2012 ( 9 months ago or so) We had SEVERAL issues with our relationship. Our anger towards each other being the first. we even had issues of physical abuse..( which he did to me on several occasions) . every now and then we always had phases of " not feeling the same" and we break up. Well anyway he broke up with me. and this time ( for the first time, and with tons of support ..i NEVEr got back with him). Until today , he begs, sends flowers and has even went to therapy to help himself. He is a 100% changed man. ( SO he says and he talks diff too). He was suffering through this breakup and I know and saw it. He came to my house on SEVERAL occasions drunk and crying. his friends and even his mom told me he is truly suffering. ( this really kills me inside bec i do love him very very much) Well long story short, he got a job offer in NY ( we live in CA) so he moved there. He KNEW that my life long wish was to live in NY for at least some part of my life. so since he left, hes been contacting me tell ing me he has a beautiful place for us, he has our pics up there etc. The problem is i met someone, the same time we broke up. This man is a great person, weve been dating for 9 months now. he is honestly everything i looked for in my ex that i never recieved . when i was with my ex i CRIED ALOT. he was VERY ignorant to my feelings and mademe the most insecure woman ever. This guy , on the otherhand trreats me like a princess. the problem is ..this guy is truly rdy to settle down.he talks about marriage and is truly in love with me. My problem and MY stress is that i need to decide whther or not to go to New York and live withmy ex. I stilll LOVE him..i dont want to make a bad decision and lose this new guy forever for my ex.my ex and i have MILLIONS of memories. ( traveling, inside jokes, a car club we started together, soccer teams, we coached together, i was not complete without basically) He was ALL i knew. He was my EVERYTHING. i dont think ill love like that again. I truly TRULY gave him all my energy and alll my heart. Its SO hard for me to love this new guy,tho he is AMAZING. My ex knows i graduate in May from College and wants me to come then . My family tells me...that if he wnats me there he better put a ring on it and NOT let him waste anymore of my years. I have talked to him about it..and he is happy to do so. I am SO worried i may be making a bad decision/ \\. One more thing..i actually bought a TICKET to NY for two weeeks from now to meet/surprise my ex. he hs NO idea..and I FEEL EXTREMELY guilty inside to my new bf. But i did it bec i want to put my MIND to REST and see him and see how i feel. If i feel i still want to be with him. Please help me ..my mind is clouded and im all alone on this situation.
Hello everyone , i will try to make this short. I was in a relationship with my ex-boyf for 8 1/2 years ( from 14 years old to 23, im 24 now). We broke up in August 2012 ( 9 months ago or so) We had SEVERAL issues with our relationship. Our anger towards each other being the first. we even had issues of physical abuse..( which he did to me on several occasions) . every now and then we always had phases of " not feeling the same" and we break up. Well anyway he broke up with me. and this time ( for the first time, and with tons of support ..i NEVEr got back with him). Until today , he begs, sends flowers and has even went to therapy to help himself. He is a 100% changed man. ( SO he says and he talks diff too). He was suffering through this breakup and I know and saw it. He came to my house on SEVERAL occasions drunk and crying. his friends and even his mom told me he is truly suffering. ( this really kills me inside bec i do love him very very much) Well long story short, he got a job offer in NY ( we live in CA) so he moved there. He KNEW that my life long wish was to live in NY for at least some part of my life. so since he left, hes been contacting me tell ing me he has a beautiful place for us, he has our pics up there etc. The problem is i met someone, the same time we broke up. This man is a great person, weve been dating for 9 months now. he is honestly everything i looked for in my ex that i never recieved . when i was with my ex i CRIED ALOT. he was VERY ignorant to my feelings and mademe the most insecure woman ever. This guy , on the otherhand trreats me like a princess. the problem is ..this guy is truly rdy to settle down.he talks about marriage and is truly in love with me. My problem and MY stress is that i need to decide whther or not to go to New York and live withmy ex. I stilll LOVE him..i dont want to make a bad decision and lose this new guy forever for my ex.my ex and i have MILLIONS of memories. ( traveling, inside jokes, a car club we started together, soccer teams, we coached together, i was not complete without basically) He was ALL i knew. He was my EVERYTHING. i dont think ill love like that again. I truly TRULY gave him all my energy and alll my heart. Its SO hard for me to love this new guy,tho he is AMAZING. My ex knows i graduate in May from College and wants me to come then . My family tells me...that if he wnats me there he better put a ring on it and NOT let him waste anymore of my years. I have talked to him about it..and he is happy to do so. I am SO worried i may be making a bad decision/ \\. One more thing..i actually bought a TICKET to NY for two weeeks from now to meet/surprise my ex. he hs NO idea..and I FEEL EXTREMELY guilty inside to my new bf. But i did it bec i want to put my MIND to REST and see him and see how i feel. If i feel i still want to be with him. Please help me ..my mind is clouded and im all alone on this situation.





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