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Hey guys,

Not sure where to start, really. Not even particularly looking for an answer, just sort of wanted to vent a bit I suppose? Don't feel obliged to read all this!

Here goes: everything in my life is pretty great, I have a good job, no money worries, a really good relationship with my family and a tight circle of friends... but lately I've been feeling so lonely. I'm 23 and a virgin- have never even had a boyfriend! It's never bothered me much before, I always put my studies first etc etc, but now I've got to this stage in my life and I have no idea how to even talk to guys! It's a bit pathetic really!

The problem is that I don't know how to go about meeting guys; I'm a lot younger than most of the men at my workplace so that's a dead end, and the kind of guys you meet on a night out are not likely to be looking for a long term commitment, ya know?
And then, if by some miracle I DO meet a nice guy, what the hell am I gonna say to him? I'm really shy and I have literally NO idea how to flirt or anything!

I just feel a bit despondent about it all- sorry for rambling on... and if you're still reading this, you deserve some sort of medal!

Thanks for reading xx
Being a virgin at your age is nothing you should be ashamed of, really. Now, please don't put the cart before the oxen. Don't worry about the future that much. When you meet someone that is really interesting and attractive you will know what to say. I promise.

Do I really deserve the medal? :)
I agree with pendulum...your situation is nothing to be ashamed of. It sounds like you are grateful for the good relationships you do have with your family and friends. People can be surrounded by good relationships and still feel lonely, I know I have. One suggestion I have is to talk about it. Right here is a good place to start. I commend you for letting out how you feel. Thats where it starts. The more you do that the better you will be at it. Relationships always find me when im not looking for one. Be a good friend and good family member and you will find what you are looking for. Good luck and keep believing because its always better to believe than not to.
Hi, I agree with the other two posters. I would help you to start out slow and try to become friends with a guy. It is much easier ti relate to a guy as a friend rather than a potential boyfriend. Many times friendship will bloom into something more serious.
And don't forget that most guys and many girls at your age and even older for that matter are insecure about their sex life. You may hear some of them boasting about the number of partners, about how great their latest encounter was, bla, bla, bla... but take it with a large grain of salt. Or a grin, if you prefer. :D
Wow, thanks everyone!

Just reading all your replies has cheered me up :) Everything always seems bleak in the middle of the night I suppose, but I feel boosted by your replies today

Thanks to everyone who took the time to read all my rambling insecurities, I really appreciate it!

You shouldnt feel like you are rambling on about insecurities. You would be surprised at the number of people who feel the same.;)
I agree that what you are feeling is a pretty common thing so you shouldn't feel bad about it. I think in fact you'd probably be surprised to find out how many people share similar feelings to you.

As for how to meet people, it's good to get involved in activities you enjoy because you can meet new people who share your same interests that way. Or you can meet new friends who can introduce you to their friends. It's a good way to expand your circle.
Honey, take your time and the right man will come along for you. The problem with most women today is that they don't want to be the last single one. You did not say if your tight circle of friends are all in relationships. Sometimes being the odd man out can be quite embarrassing at times, but you don't look on the bright side that you are the only single one in the crowd for men to meet. Please don't try to rush things, sometimes women do and they end up with the wrong man for them who beat them and are alcoholics because of their insecurities, same with being in Bars or Clubs. Remember even shy women get the man, and they are usually the ones who have great everlasting relationships. Keep your chin up, enjoy your life while you can. The minute you relax and least expect it, you will probably find it, or it will find you. Good Luck!

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