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Hello all! First off, this post will be very lengthy so prepare for a good read!

My name is Mark. I am from the US and I am 20 years old. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now and let me just say it has been up and down the entire time but not for reasons that you may think.

I have always been a very loyal boyfriend. I have done nothing but treat her the way she deserved to be treated and spoiled her frequently. We have made some of the best memories together during this time and I wouldn't trade any of them for the world. However, she has extreme depression, bi-polar (from what it looks like), anger, and trust issues. Her ex boyfriend had cheated on her 10+ times in the 4-5 months they were together. He emotional destroyed her and physically harmed her as well. She went to therapy and took antidepressants up until we went into our freshman year of college.

Now, I'm not going to lie, I did talk to a lot of girls when I first met her. All of them being harmless friends but from her eyes, it was a repeat of her past relationship. At first I did not understand why she was so upset over these people and I was certainly not going to stop being friends with them simply because I had literally just met someone. That would be crazy. But the more we talked, the more I fell for her and more I heard about her story with her ex. I did stop talking to all of those girls and did whatever made her comfortable. However, this never satisfied her. She would always bring up these people and talk a lot of garbage about them for no apparent reason other than the fact that I had talked to them. This turned into her literally getting mad at me for people that I had known before I even knew of her existence. I had also made the mistake of talking highly about my ex (because I had no problem with her at the time) when my girlfriend and I first started talking. This instantly led her to believe I was not over my ex and all this other crazy BS which wasn't true at all. As the months went on, the fights got worse even though the problems were not there anymore. I did EVERYTHING to make sure that there was nothing for her to fight about anymore yet the fighting would never cease to exist it simply got worse. She swears up and down that I lie about my past (even though I have no reason to simply because I didn't even know her for some of the past she gets mad about).

These fights never lasted long and always ended with us kissing and hugging it out but lately they have gotten quite ugly. She says very hurtful things now and tells me how much better she can do than me and how I'm exactly like her ex, which I'm not at all. I know that trust is a HUGE part of a relationship, but its almost not her fault to not trust someone after everything that has happened with her past and I always tell myself that if I show her that I care and that I'm not going anywhere, maybe she will learn that she can trust me. Another huge problem is that she is stubborn and refuses to get help because she believes its my fault that she is like this. She is currently on antidepressants but as of right now, they are doing very little even though she has a very high dosage.

I guess my real question is, what do I do? Do I leave her alone and let her get the help she needs? Do I stay with her every step of the way and be there for her through thick and thin? I just don't know. There have been times where I have bluffed and told her that I am leaving for good and she came crawling back instantly and then there were times where she acted like she couldn't give a damn in the world! She gives off many mixed signals and my main concern is that if I let her go but let her know I am always here for her when she is ready, will she get the help she needs? She knows that she needs help and admits it (very rarely, but she has). I know most people will say "let her go and if she comes back its meant to be" but you guys have to understand how PERFECT this relationship is when she doesn't snap like this. I could honestly picture myself marrying her someday when she is being her happy, loving self. It would be such a shame to let this go knowing there is a possibility that she won't come back because she will be too stubborn to get the help she needs.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Any advice would be great.





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