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Okay so basically, I had been with my ex bf for over 4yrs he was my childhood sweet heart and after a long time trying since the age of 13 to get together we did when we where both 15, he was my first love and first boyfriend. I loved him sooo much and he loved me too..
The relationship wasn't that great though. We where opposites he loves to party get drunk, flirt, try drugs, so on and I'm more of a stay at home and snuggle with a movie kinda girl.
Over a yr ago we broke up in a very nasty way, he had gone to uni in the UK and that's when the "truth" came out, where he had supposedly cheated on me with several girls during our relationship. He still denies it even to this day. But even his sister confirmed it so I moved on.

Recently we started talking to each other again after he blocked me out of his life due to a new relationship I jumped in. Obv a rebound only lasted a few months. I'm now in a new and very happy relationship we've been together a little over a yr and I love him with all my heart. I'm 20yrs old nearly 21 and see this relationship differently now...

But my ex and I talk alot and have a laugh, he says he's in another relationship and apologised for everything he did when we where nothing but young teens... But still denies cheating.

Lately I can't stop thinking about him. I know I don't love him.
But I guess I miss the memories?
It's annoying me as when I sleep I dream about us getting back together when I shouldn't! I love my current bf and we are even planning on moving in together next yr! But my mind keeps spinning! I highly doubt my ex thinks about me, and why should he? Thing is even if I had the guts to ask how he feels i wouldn't want to get back with him.

But if that's the case why do I keep thinking about him, feeling down about it all??
I find it hard to trust my current bf at times, he's the opposite of my ex, hes more like me but does certain things that remind me of my other relationship (like when he puts his friends before me, or when we argue) that make me break down in tears. Is it because I don't want to repeat it all again?

I don't know what to do about this :/
Holyyyyyyy crap. Sorry. All I could say. Me and you, my ex and yours. SAME. This is absolutely crazy. I met my ex at 15, we fell in love, dated on and off 5 years. We officially were done in february of this year. A few weeks later (weird story don't judge lol) me and my ex cousin in law, yes, his dad married to my aunt ten years ago for two years, started talking off facebook because I commented on a link my cousin (our mutual friend) shared. And we hit it off messaging paragraphs and like essays to each other, we went out on a date, cool, another, that's when he realized he wanted to date me. Now we're dating and it's been 6 months.
And girl don't even THINK about leaving your current boyfriend. A guy that cheats and doesn't admit it but everyone knows? NOPE.
My ex, he was my WORLD. I would have married him at 16. He was the biggest flirt. Every girl in school wanted him. Most popular guy in jr high and high school. Now me? Complete introvert video game animal loving tree loving nerd, shy, quiet.
My ex admitted to cheating a few times, JUST because its what I wanted to hear so he could get back with me and hook up, then he'd deny it. When I started dating my boyfriend now? My ex tried breaking us up for months, now that he can't have me, is the only time he wanted me again. Me and my ex would hook up all the time (when I was single) I was like so are we together now? He'd say "I can't be in a relationship right now..." Because he had other girls. When he'd talk to me, you knew they weren't working out.

Point: I think about him all the damn time. I used to dream about him all the damn time. Still do sometimes. I miss the MEMORIES. First love, first intimacy, first hopes for my future, I still struggle should I break up with my boyfriend for him, the good times with my ex made me the happiest in the world. But the trust issues I know now I'd NEVER forgive him for or forget, are and were NOT worth it. I won't get that again, the instant spark when we'd kiss. 5 years even on and off we were in the honeymoon stage, I know he loved and loves me. He's just not right for me. Maybe he is now, I don't know. I just know I can never trust him again, because he ruined my trust way too many times and broke my heart. They say it takes half the amount of time you were with someone to get over them. That means maybe in 2.5 years I'll be completely over it. It's been 7 months. I have a lot of time left. But I know my current boyfriend is a better match, he is 6 years older and has his life in order and knows what he wants..

There are different types of love, and it will never be the same as your last with someone new. My ex was like a bad drug, the rush and high when I saw him, intamacy was amazing, everything was perfect, except I didn't trust him, and didn't have a reason to trust him again.
Holyyyyyyy crap. Sorry. All I could say. Me and you, my ex and yours. SAME. This is absolutely crazy. I met my ex at 15, we fell in love, dated on and off 5 years. We officially were done in february of this year. A few weeks later (weird story don't judge lol) me and my ex cousin in law, yes, his dad married to my aunt ten years ago for two years, started talking off facebook because I commented on a link my cousin (our mutual friend) shared. And we hit it off messaging paragraphs and like essays to each other, we went out on a date, cool, another, that's when he realized he wanted to date me. Now we're dating and it's been 6 months.
And girl don't even THINK about leaving your current boyfriend. A guy that cheats and doesn't admit it but everyone knows? NOPE.
My ex, he was my WORLD. I would have married him at 16. He was the biggest flirt. Every girl in school wanted him. Most popular guy in jr high and high school. Now me? Complete introvert video game animal loving tree loving nerd, shy, quiet.
My ex admitted to cheating a few times, JUST because its what I wanted to hear so he could get back with me and hook up, then he'd deny it. When I started dating my boyfriend now? My ex tried breaking us up for months, now that he can't have me, is the only time he wanted me again. Me and my ex would hook up all the time (when I was single) I was like so are we together now? He'd say "I can't be in a relationship right now..." Because he had other girls. When he'd talk to me, you knew they weren't working out.

Point: I think about him all the damn time. I used to dream about him all the damn time. Still do sometimes. I miss the MEMORIES. First love, first intimacy, first hopes for my future, I still struggle should I break up with my boyfriend for him, the good times with my ex made me the happiest in the world. But the trust issues I know now I'd NEVER forgive him for or forget, are and were NOT worth it. I won't get that again, the instant spark when we'd kiss. 5 years even on and off we were in the honeymoon stage, I know he loved and loves me. He's just not right for me. Maybe he is now, I don't know. I just know I can never trust him again, because he ruined my trust way too many times and broke my heart. They say it takes half the amount of time you were with someone to get over them. That means maybe in 2.5 years I'll be completely over it. It's been 7 months. I have a lot of time left. But I know my current boyfriend is a better match, he is 6 years older and has his life in order and knows what he wants..

There are different types of love, and it will never be the same as your last with someone new. My ex was like a bad drug, the rush and high when I saw him, intamacy was amazing, everything was perfect, except I didn't trust him, and didn't have a reason to trust him again.





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