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I have been dating a man for nearly 6 years. I am divorced also. He got divorced a few years before I met him; his wife left him. They have one daughter together and live within a mile of each other, and have many mutual friends and often have social engagements wherein both are present. Throughout the time I have been with my boyfriend he has tried to get me to "like" her, and has not recognized my stance; that she left him, and not only do I have no interest in establishing any type of relationship with her, but she does not belong in our relationship. He has said I am difficult and that I do not socialize well in these occasions and he has not recognized that I am uncomfortable with her presence. That I feel like I am dating not only him but also to a large extent her too. Fast forward to now. He just successfully beat cancer, and I told him I would like to throw him a dinner party for him with his close friends and family to celebrate his good news. He invites his ex. And not only her but also her boyfriend! Remember I am paying for this party and I am totally not on board with that. On Valentine's Day I ask him why, and he tells me he cannot extricate her from his life. He says I asked him who he wanted there and am I telling him who he can and cannot invite? In fact, he defends her by telling me she has invited me to her social functions many times (which is not true). What does this tell you? He is either obscenely obtuse about my feelings or is clueless. We have talked about this on more than one occasion and I suppose I am a very slow learner, or he has just become honest with me because I feel like it is not my position to get him to change. Thank you for your feedback.





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