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My girlfriend and I dated for about a month and we recently found out that she was two months pregnant. She admitted that she had sex with her ex about a month before we started dating, so she didn't cheat on me.

She had an abortion today and I can't help feeling uneasy. I know protection doesn't work 100% but I just don't quite feel the same as I used to before we found out.

So, will this uneasiness pass or does it mean the relationship is going down a bad road?
What is making you feel uneasy?
[QUOTE=Seraph;5312813]What is making you feel uneasy?[/QUOTE]

It's that she tends to be pretty careless sometimes, like accidentally leaving her mobile on a train or forgetting to lock the door. So I'm really afraid that another pregnancy may come out of the blue, this time with my child and I wouldn't be ready for it at that time.

Also, for a moment, I expected the child to be mine, not her ex's so I was a bit disappointed.
You will not leave it to her to take the whole responsibility for birth control. Be a participant, use condoms, practise safe sex generally. It is always possible to be deceived, but if it is just absent-mindedness on her part, your input and sharing of the responsibility will do the trick.
I understand your disappointment, because, well, baby! You will be a good dad when the time is right. Sera
Hi, perhaps you perceive her as being more tainted having gone through this experience so if you are feeling uneasy then perhaps it will take some time to get through this. However, if you do not get through this then you should cut your loses and move on...
@Seraph I've always practised safe sex and will continue to do so. Thank you - I'll talk to her tonight once she comes back from work. :)

@lenvegas Yes, that's exactly what makes me a little bit uneasy. But I love her very much so I'll definitely stay with her and be there for her.
[QUOTE=lostinelsweyr;5312830]@Seraph I've always practised safe sex and will continue to do so. Thank you - I'll talk to her tonight once she comes back from work. :)

@lenvegas Yes, that's exactly what makes me a little bit uneasy. But I love her very much so I'll definitely stay with her and be there for her.[/QUOTE]
I think you are doing a good thing, our ability to not let the past rule our future makes us more mature and well adjusted people. All the best to you and your girlfriend....
[QUOTE=lenvegas;5312831]I think you are doing a good thing, our ability to not let the past rule our future makes us more mature and well adjusted people. All the best to you and your girlfriend....[/QUOTE]

Thank you, and thanks to Seraph as well :)

I believe that what's in the past is done and can't be changed so it's best to look forward to the future.





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