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I tried desperately to give up junk food for many, many years. I final succeeded with support groups and self examination. I have so much compassion for others struggling with this addiction. I meet someone special and he is gaining rapidly and developing a ton of health difficulties. I am sensitive to understand not to push or embarrass him. I shared some statistics about junk food on my face book page and he posted the following.

"You are showing with this food campaign, you really hate people that eat. You are beginning to sound like a unstable person. No relationship can thrive in that environment"

I told him intimacy with him leaves me frightened and physically uncomfortable

His response " I hurt his feelings"
Sorry, I'll be blunt: I think you are incompatible. You need someone on the same page where you are, and he needs someone who accepts his way of life. It also seems difficult for him to take any sort of criticism, even if it is positive criticism. On the other hand, he didn't ask you any advice, so ... Of course, telling him that intimacy with him left you frightened and physically uncomfortable would be hurtful. Maybe you should apologize to him, if adequate, but unless you guys are able to accept each other fully (especially you accept his lifestyle), I don't see this relationship going anywhere.
Hi,

His reply to your face book page shows just how he feels about your new eating regime.
You are happy with your way he is happy with his and has no desire to change.
You say he is special and that you don't want to push or embarrass him and then you tell him that intimacy with him leaves you feeling physically uncomfortable.
If he is so special this is a thoughtless way to address him.
My husband smokes I don't but that's his choice mine is mine. Let him be and don't mention food again or look for someone who will join you in your new food regime,

Solofelix.
I don't care for his attitude.....he sounds a little passive-aggressive....
I'd leave him in the dust......he's more in love with his junk food than he is you.....and this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship
I really appreciate your response. I did not tell him callously about our intimacy problem. He knows it caused me physical pain.
After much soul searching I felt he needed to be made aware of this difficulty, He replied he was not going to try and loose any weight. I took that to mean, he was not going to alter his behavior with me. I'm sad because that is the way most addictions sound like.
Thanks again,
We tried talking on the phone recently and he called me evil and abusive. I'm so sorry, I could cry.
[QUOTE=affirmations;5331791]I really appreciate your response. I did not tell him callously about our intimacy problem. He knows it caused me physical pain.
After much soul searching I felt he needed to be made aware of this difficulty, He replied he was not going to try and loose any weight. I took that to mean, he was not going to alter his behavior with me. I'm sad because that is the way most addictions sound like.
Thanks again,
We tried talking on the phone recently and he called me evil and abusive. I'm so sorry, I could cry.[/QUOTE]


"You know where you stand now"...
Time to move on, But try to remember not everyone is into
your healthy life style and he's one of them,


Solofelix.
Thanks so much,





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