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... Hello, I also just posted on the board and I am in a similar relationship. I know deep down it is verbally abusive, he is bi-polar, narcissictic, and I have put up with this for 5 years. He is very charming, everyone thinks he is just wonderful, but they do not know the other side of him. I do love him too and it is so hard to break away but I know in my heart I am a good... (48 replies)
... I am so happy for you! :D I hope being separated from him will get you back to being the outgoing bubbly you that you mentioned. I have only had very limited contact with my BPD 'friend' since our project finished it's first major phase and I have already started sleeping better and putting some weight back on - not that I want the weight back, lol (in fact I joke with... (48 replies)
... I just want to update everyone on my progress, and I am proud to say... I finally packed my bags and left him.. and I want to thank those of you who have helped me through much of this... letting me know that I am not alone. I took my name off the lease, but let him keep the furniture (to sell) to help him pay the last month's rent. I didn't have to, but I didn't want to... (48 replies)

... medicated me to the point of falling asleep standing up at work one day and my boyfriend having to come and pick me up because my boss wouldn't let me drive the 45 minutes back home I was so lethargic. ... (1 replies)
... Hi Simplyd You could have been describing me in your post. I am exactly like you, to the tee. I am also a caregiver and always feel it is my responsibility to take care of people. The problem is, I have been told, is that we don't take care of ourselves. I have known this man for two years. In the beginning of our relationship he tried everything to try to get me to... (48 replies)
... These are excellent books on the subject if you care to read, it may clear your mind of what MAY be happening!! (48 replies)
... I would actually disagree that he cries to manipulate you. I believe his tears are real. He's hurt, upset, etc. etc. People with BPD feel emotions very strongly and it isn't a manipulation. What it is though, is all about them. They aren't tears for you, they're for him. In fact, he could well soon turn those tears into anger at how you've 'hurt him' (you've made him cry,... (48 replies)
... He "cries" to manipulate you into feeling sorry for him, and the focus is on his tears instead of on what he's done to you to make you need to leave him. And it works great, doesn't it? Instead of being angry about the treatment he's given you, you now feel guilty about making him cry!! Please try to see this for what it is. PS: And I don't buy for one second that his... (48 replies)
... You need to think of yourself. Locked out of your own home so he can snoop through your personal stuff to see if you've been cheating?!!!! :mad: What will he resort to next? Is there any way you can take your personal stuff and leave now? As you've seen, this cycle of abuse and manipulation is never ending, it will not get better and most likely will only get worse. ... (48 replies)
... it's not really a change of heart, it's more manipulation....aww he's sad, and it's just zero to 60 next time he SNAPS and starts raging. you should know this! please read the book co-dependent no more....it helped me tremendously....I'm co-dependent and struggling with it....I'm getting better though.... you're co-dependent too....stop putting his needs above your own (48 replies)
... I admit, I let this relationship completely take control of me... maybe I do need to be needed... or maybe I just can't say no when someone needs my help. I thought that made me a good person, but now I just feel.. weak... stupid.. taken advantage of. He's now sending me links about people with BPD and how they feel... I understand. I've read about it. But I need to... (48 replies)
... I hope you've figured out this answer by now....do you help him one more time? ABSOLUTELY NOT.....with BPD people there is never ONE more time....give them an inch, they take a mile. walk away NOW....you've gotten this far, made the decision.....move forward. Of course he wants to talk now, they always do when they think they're losing you....it's manipulation, pure and... (48 replies)
... I'm worried for you, sometimes people snap when they are being left and you've been under his control for a while. Are you ok? (48 replies)
... He's using you. He's manipulating you and using you. What he's doing when he's calling you names and insulting you is putting you on the defensive. You don't stop and think "is this true? What evidence is there for this accusation?" because he's offended you, so you start defending yourself. It has taken me a couple bad relationships to pick up on these patterns. I'm a... (48 replies)
... Okay, so.. today I got home.. and the front door was bolted. I was upset because.. I mean, I was locked out of my own home. I thought it was kind of suspicious, but he kept saying that it was an accident. Later, he tells me that he bolted it because he was about to go look through my laptop.. to look for traces of me communicating or cheating with another man. Seriously?! ... (48 replies)
... Let me just be clear. I am 110% sure that he has BPD. There is not a single doubt in my mind. Today, I told him that I will be moving out. Instead of trying to talk to me, he snapped at me, saying that I'm getting in the way of his studies. He's always suddenly busy when I want to talk about how I'm feeling. Just minutes before, he was listening to music and relaxing on the... (48 replies)
... I agree, these people don't see the need to change (if they're not diagnosable) because so far, it's gotten them what they want in life. After all, they have a GF/BF/spouse who, instead of running for the hills, is trying to find out ways to "deal" with them, or trying to find the magic formula that will stop them from whatever hurtful behaviors they are doing, or trying to... (48 replies)
... lets put it this way as not to offend anyone.... IF he has BPD, it is safe to assume that he will not get any better, he will just get worse..... if he's just a nasty person with a bad attitude, he will also just get worse. I hope that is politically correct enough for everyone! (48 replies)
... della, how do you deal with seeing him? I start to feel pretty strong between times when I have to see him. But then it is definitely a one step forward, two steps back kind of feeling..... I struggle to maintain my peace when I have to be around him. Do you have any tips? (48 replies)
... Hon, you have to get out. You sound like a wonderful person and fully of life. It isn't too late for you to get back what you lost. Realize you lose yourself with people like this. When I left my ex I caught myself saying negative things about people, just random people in the mall, on tv, whatever. I thought "this isn't me, what's going on?" and I realized that I was... (48 replies)




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