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Im 24 and have been smoking 6 years and i seriously have to stop. Ive had the flu recently and my chest was killing tme to the point where i felt like someone was sitting on it. Enough is enough i have to quit but only managed 2 days an dthen last night had a glass of wine and OH MY GOD i had to have a cig. So i had 4...... I dont know how im going to have a drink and not smoke........... and the thing is i love smoking i do. Yes its a disgusting habbit but i love it! tHATS the problem. But my health has to come first but i really dont know if i can do it. The thought of never having a cigerette again really depresses me! Ugh how did i become so addicted?! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Oh I'm right there with you. I'm 29, have been smoking for fifteen years, and am finally really serious about quitting. Read my other post - "day five, will I make it" - I did the same thing as you. I met up with a friend, at a bar, had two beers and smoked four cigarettes. I only made it five days. Well I say only, but for me that was quite an accomplishment. I wish I had some advice for you, Deda will though. She's been quit more than two years! We can can can do this. I am not going to let my slip stop me. I learned from it. Two things: 1) cannot hang out with smoking friends for a while, which is OK, most of my friends and my husband are non-smokers. The smokers I will just avoid for a bit. 2) Can't drink either, or at least can't go to bars. I have no trouble having a glass of wine with my husband because he doesn't smoke, and we don't smoke in the house, and I have to SNEAK smokes because it makes him so mad, so I really don't think about it much at home. So I just need to stay away from places where other people are smoking. Perhaps you should switch your wine to tea for a while. Not coffee, because if you're anything like me, coffee makes me want to smoke even more than alcohol!
Just remember that quitting is not going to get any easier. I tried quitting at 24, really wish I had stuck with that because now it's even more entrenched as a habit. I know what you mean though. I love cigarettes too. But we only love them because we are completely, helplessly enslaven by them. And though it's going to be uncomfortable for a while, what we will love more is FREEDOM. Another poster said something to me that struck a chord, that when he/she would crave, he/she would say "I'm CHOOSING not to smoke" rather than "I can't." That gives our personal power back.
Are you using the patch or gum? I use the patch. Some people probably don't agree with that, but I wouldn't have a chance without it. It really does help. Good luck and let me know how you're doing!
Sylvia...honey, DON'T worry about whether people agree or not with you using the patch!! I STILL chew a couple of pieces of gum per day, and I REALLY don't care WHAT people think or say about that...I DO NOT smoke anymore!!! A couple of pieces of gum is NOT a detriment to my health...even my Dr. said, "It won't hurt you".

You and hippichick are both so smart, both of you wanting and trying to quit at only 24 and 29! You'll do it...I know you will!

My first attempt to quit, I was only 18, had been smoking for only a year....went in hospital to have a baby, and just quit, cold turkey...no prob!! :) Yeah...right!! My (then very immature husband) had promised to quit with me...yeah right, (again)!! :( Found out he was smoking all along..which for some stupid reason, just made me want to smoke too! (Monkey see...monkey do..?) (that quit lasted 5 weeks)

This went on for years and years....me quitting, him saying he was too, me catching him, me starting again...geez...why didn't I just do it for MYSELF!!!????

Him and I took SO many smoking cessation classes through our Air Force hospitals...at least 5 times, we took these 8 week courses!! I always "graduated with honors!!" But all along he was smoking. He chewed that gum for 5 years one time, just at home, to try to get me to quit!! (They were giving it to him free at the base hosp.) He would tell them lies to get it..."I'm having stress".."I'm having marital problems". I gave up! Even tho 2 of those times, I made it to one year!

My two kids were on me forever to quit....they would cry when they'd see me start again after a long quit! Poor kids...I don't know why they worried more about MY smoking, more than their dad???

Finally, almost 3 years ago, the big man decides HE wants to quit!! I guess by then, I didn't have any faith left in him...I thought.."yeah sure...he'll die a smoker". He bought the gum and quit. :nono: I still didn't believe him.

Well, I'd been smoking outside for years already, and never smoked in my car, ever....but I would go outside and smoke, (about a pack to 1 and 1/2 a day), and it wasn't any fun anymore, smoking without him. At work, there was only me and one other dumb lady...we were the ONLY smokers, (only dummies..LOL and she is now 62 and STILL smokes!) of about 25 staff!! (we would sneak outside and smoke, and watch out for each other too) :rolleyes:

Anyhoo, after 7 months of my DH being quit, I was diagnosed with hypothyroid, an autoimmune disease. Thought...this is IT, I MUST QUIT---NOW!!!!!!!

Even tho I was having fun blowing smoke all over my hubby by then, ;) I bought me patches, and did everything in my power to quit!!
:nono: I made up my mind for good---THIS is THE LAST TIME----DAMMIT!!!!!!!

My mind was made up...I'll do whatever it takes! And I did....deep down we KNOW what we have to do....we KNOW we must get away from our smoking clan....I don't drink any more..so that wasn't a problem. Had I been a drinker, I would've quit...for as long as it would take!! (Back when I was 23, I quit when I was PG, and managed not to smoke for 14 months, till one night...just ONE stupid night, I went out with some friends, drinking, and I think they were ALL smokers, (it was 1979, a lot of us were smoking fools back then), and had a few that night. The next morning, I woke up CRAVING BIG TIME!! I got outta my PJ's, INTO my jeans and off to the mini mart I drove...to pick up those stupid Virgie Slimes!!) What an idiot I was!!! :(

This quit was easier in somes ways...1. Hubby wasn't smoking anymore...2.Not as many smokers around now. [we live in CA], they hate smoking out here...you cannnot smoke in a bar or anywhere, which helps and 3.I was sick, so I had to stop!!4.I was ashamed and embarassed to be seen smoking by then.

It wasn't easy or simple by no means, but just the 1st few weeks were really the toughest. I prayed for strength every day!! I changed my lazy couch potato habits...I quit talking on the phone for hours at a time....I kept telling myself, this is what I want and NEED to do!! I kept reminding myself that there were tons of rewards, (and there are!!!)

Don't be stubborn and stupid like me, and keep finding reasons to start again!! There is NO good reason, not even one!! I wish I had quit while I was YOUNG LIKE YOU GIRLS, and been over with it!! Don't wait until you're older....becauser it gets harder...you might have an illness, or other life problems. or you might get sick with a smoking related illness by the time you're 40. I'm not trying to scare you...but more and more women are getting lung cancer than ever before. Go read at the lung cancer boards!!! You will see them! I used to go read there when I 1st quit smoking,...just to frighten the life outta me...to reinforce my resolve to quit!! Go there and read...you'll definitely feel stronger about quitting for good!

Don't ruin your wonderfully good health!! Bask in it!! Start loving life and your health more...take up a sport..anything...walking, (that's what I did!), biking, take a dance class, or take up some artsy craft...learn to crochet....that will keep your hands busy, and your mind too, and you can make some beautiful things for your home, or friends.

I feel such great pride now that that nasty, stinky habit is in my past!! I feel better in my chest, I can walk 3 miles, [fast] on my treadmill, my garage smells normal again, no more shame when I walk out of a restaurant, lighting up the very second I put one foot out the door, and people looking at me like I'm a big loser, and no longer annoying my non smoking friends! And I save about $150.00 every month!!!! Oh yeah, my kids are happy too, and say they don't worry about me as much as before. Hubby kept his word, and really did quit...3 years this March. WOOOOOO-HOOOOOO :nono: We don't smoke anymore..and never will again!!! :D

Get busy girls....YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!! The question is, HOW MUCH DO YOU WANT TO????

HUGS....
Deda
hippichick....hey girl...in a huge hurry here, but I DITTO EVERYTHING SYLVIA said to you...it's the truth!! IF YOU [B]REALLY [/B] DESIRE, WANT TO QUIT,...THEN YOU WILL..[I]PARTY OR NO PARTY[/I].

TAKE SOMETHING IN YOUR HANDS. [I]DON'T DRINK THE ALCOHOL[/I]. ORDER A TONIC WATER OR SOMETHING WITH NO ALCOHOL, AND GET SOME SWIZZLE STICKS AND PLAY WITH THOSE, FROM HAND TO MOUTH. BUT THE STRONGEST THING, THE BEST THING TO DO, IS THINK THE RIGHT THOUGHTS!! STRONG, STRONG THOUGHTS!!....IE; DON'T WANT IT, DON'T NEED IT...I HATE IT,,, I'M SICK OF IT....I WANT HEALTH...GOOD HEALTH...NOT IF I SMOKE, I WON'T HAVE GOOD HEALTH....[B]THINK OF HOW BAD YOUR CHEST HURT WHILE YOU WERE SICK!!!! [/B] IT WOULD FEEL WORSE WITH EMPHYSEMA OR LUNG CANCER, OR HEART DISEASE!!!! SAY A PRAYER BEFORE YOU GO,...I'LL PRAY FOR YOU RIGHT NOW. BEEEE STRONG GIRL...DON'T ACT SO WIMPY, (I'M SORRY), BUT BE A STRONG WOMAN, CHICK, COME ON.....[B]YOU ARE WOMAN, WATCH YOU ROAR!!! GRRRRRRRRR[/B].I HATE SMOKING!!!!!!!!!!

IF I CAN GO TO A PARTY AND HAVE A GREEEEAAAATT TIME NOW SMOKE FREE, SO CAN YOU!!!! IN FACT, [B]I'D STAY AWAY FROM THE SMOKER'S LIKE THE PLAGUE...[/B]I DON'T WANT TO BREATHE THAT UNHEALTHY 3000 UGLY CHEMICALS INTO THESE BEAUTIFUL CLEANED UP LUNGS!! NO WAY, GIRLFRIEND. CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE, GET TOUGH WITH YOURSELF....YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

[B]THAT IS....IF YOU REALLY, TRULY WANT TO!!!!![/B]


OFF TO DO MY CHRISTMAS SHOPPING....

GOD BLESS YOU MY STRONG FRIEND!
BIG HUGS!!!
DEDA





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