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Re: Is it possible?
Nov 21, 2003
hey jaebird! thanks for replying...im sorry to hear you havent talked to him in years...but anyways...i think im in love with my ex-boyfriend (we still talk and are pretty much going out just w/o the title) we really have a wierd relationship...but anyways we started going out about a year and 3 months ago and didnt exactly have the best relationship...i think we broke up 3 or 4 times alltogether and hes one of those really hot guys that are total jerks and he ended up cheating on me (which i still dont know the whole story) and i lost my virginity to him last year...which really was not a big deal for me b/c i thought i was in love w/ him anyways when i found out he had cheated i broke it off for good. so then he went out with this other girl for a while and called me out of the blue over the summer when we hadnt talked in like 3 months. well we started talking again (which is how we always start after each break up) but at first i was convinced that i totally hated him and that we were JUST gonna be friends...but of course the talking led to other things and i had promised myself that i would never go back out w/ him again b/c when we were going out he really hurt me like too many times for me to count...but he said that the girl he went out w/ after me had treated him the same way he has treated all his past g/fs including me...so he learned his lesson...and in a lot of ways he really has changed but there are still some things that are the same...yea i know guys never change blah blah blah...but i really do think hes a better guy than when we went out and he really wants to get back together and i really do too...like i really really want to...but i sorta like being single but im also ready to have a relationship again...but im just scared that well fall back into the same cycle and it will be the same as it was before...and he always talks about getting married like in 5 or 6 years or something...and that really scares me...and i thought it was guys that were supposed to be afraid of commitment! but he always says hes ready to settle down and tired of playing the field...anyways this has nothing to do w/ me being in love lol...like a lot of my friends think that im just "attached" to him b/c i lost my virginity to him but i dont think thats it at all! i guess in a way i am attached to him like i seriously dont know what i would do if he wasnt in my life...and ive never felt this way about any other guy like i cant even explain the way i feel about him...well this post is really really long...oh by the way hes 2 years older than me (19) and he lives about an hour away..but anyways so sorry this post is so long!! but thanks for caring jaebird!! and id like to know about your situation too!
Re: Is it possible?
Nov 22, 2003
[QUOTE=scarletmist00]hey jaebird! thanks for replying...im sorry to hear you havent talked to him in years...but anyways...i think im in love with my ex-boyfriend (we still talk and are pretty much going out just w/o the title) we really have a wierd relationship...but anyways we started going out about a year and 3 months ago and didnt exactly have the best relationship...i think we broke up 3 or 4 times alltogether and hes one of those really hot guys that are total jerks and he ended up cheating on me (which i still dont know the whole story) and i lost my virginity to him last year...which really was not a big deal for me b/c i thought i was in love w/ him anyways when i found out he had cheated i broke it off for good. so then he went out with this other girl for a while and called me out of the blue over the summer when we hadnt talked in like 3 months. well we started talking again (which is how we always start after each break up) but at first i was convinced that i totally hated him and that we were JUST gonna be friends...but of course the talking led to other things and i had promised myself that i would never go back out w/ him again b/c when we were going out he really hurt me like too many times for me to count...but he said that the girl he went out w/ after me had treated him the same way he has treated all his past g/fs including me...so he learned his lesson...and in a lot of ways he really has changed but there are still some things that are the same...yea i know guys never change blah blah blah...but i really do think hes a better guy than when we went out and he really wants to get back together and i really do too...like i really really want to...but i sorta like being single but im also ready to have a relationship again...but im just scared that well fall back into the same cycle and it will be the same as it was before...and he always talks about getting married like in 5 or 6 years or something...and that really scares me...and i thought it was guys that were supposed to be afraid of commitment! but he always says hes ready to settle down and tired of playing the field...anyways this has nothing to do w/ me being in love lol...like a lot of my friends think that im just "attached" to him b/c i lost my virginity to him but i dont think thats it at all! i guess in a way i am attached to him like i seriously dont know what i would do if he wasnt in my life...and ive never felt this way about any other guy like i cant even explain the way i feel about him...well this post is really really long...oh by the way hes 2 years older than me (19) and he lives about an hour away..but anyways so sorry this post is so long!! but thanks for caring jaebird!! and id like to know about your situation too![/QUOTE]

First off just let me say that is WAY possible to love at any age. Like you I fell In love at seventeen. And like you the guy was a complete Jerk. Dont believe what people say about guys never changing becuase they do. BUT if you have all these doubts and are wondering if you are old enough to be in love then it is quite possible your friends are right!! Did you date any after you two broke up? Your relationship sounds the EXACT same as mine was.... on again off again on again of again. he also took my virginity.... And I thought I could never live with out him. Well we went back on into a relationship becuase he chnaged things about him chasnged although some of the stuff was still there....and let me tell you I have found the perfect guy and I am getting married. But the killer is its not him. The point I am getting at is for a long time I didnt give myself a chance to heal from him and what we had.... then when we started back into the routine I met the best guy who I fell in love with the day we met and who has loved me just as long. SO if you wnat my advice it would be to start dating casually but always rememeber that the greatest guy is most likely still out there. And unless you have changed too and stopped letting him hurt you and control you then the relationship will only go back to the way it was before!!
Take care and let me know what happens!!





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