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[QUOTE=klo289]This is going to be somewhat of a long story, but please read it all. I have been in an abusive relationship before, I understand what you are going through. . I was not allowed to leave my house unless he came and got me, he was always putting me down, hitting me, spitting in my face, the list goes on and on. He would sit at my job to make sure no guys talked to me. I was a manager at a restaurant, and one time he pinned one of my employees up against a wall choking him for talking to me too much. He had treatened to kill my parents, me and himself everytime I tried to go agaist anything he said or wanted to break up. I was 19 at the time, but I kept thinking he would change. He kept promising he would change, that it would never happen again. When things weren't bad, they were wonderful. I loved being with him and we always had such a great time together. But the bad times, I wanted to kill myself. I thought that would be the only way out. I ended up getting pregnant, and realized that I could not subject a child to the life I was living. I finally broke it off, and it was the best thing I ever did. Telling my family was hard, but they were very supportive and helped me see things clearer. For a few months he would come to my job and corner me, follow me around town, and come peel out in my driveway in the middle of the night. I stood my ground, and eventually he backed off . This was not my first bad relationship, when I was 15, I dated a guy that was 20. Things were never good, he was always cheating on me. The first time we had sex (he was my first) I did not want to, but he held me down and insisted that I was playing hard to get. I know that some might wonder why I stayed with him after that, but at that age, I just could not really grasp what had happened. I thought that he loved me and that maybe that was his way of showing it. After we finally broke up, I continued to date older guys including one that was 26. My family never knew that any of this was going on. I am 24 now, and I can honostly say that 15 was too young to be dating anyone older than me. Older guys are going to expect more out of you than you are willing to or should be giving. And they are not going to be understanding to your indifference. They will not change, not matter how much they promise. No one can change for someone else, they have to do it for themselves. Tell you family, they will help you more than you can imagine. I know when we are teenagers, we think that we are old enough to make our own discisions, but listen to your parents advice. They know so much more than you realize. In just a few years you will realize that. Please get out now, before you end up like way too many young girls in your situation......dead![/QUOTE]

i can see you totally understand , he was there when i got to scool waiting , he said he really needed to talk to me , but i prettended i had an exam on so i couldnt chat , he said can we talk after and i said yeah cause i was scared, i didnt actully think he would wait that long but he did , and he wanted to walk me home , he said i was way to sensitive and that i had change since we started out , that made me feel really bad, he said he didnt think wat he done to me the other night was bad , he was only having sex with his gf he said i owd it to him , cause i had changed
and said he loved me and always will , apparently the girls he was with was just a bit of fun and i over reacted, but even when im seen talking to a guy he dosnt like it , but its diffrent for him
then he put a ring on my finger and said this is for us to be together and one day he wants to marry me, i told i couldnt take it cause its over between us. and he said he aint gonna take it back because he is never gonna leave me alone cause he loves me , he said i will soon learn. and one day he will make my dreams come true, and he said that what he said about the other girls being prettyer than me was out of order, he only said it cause he was angry and he says he thinks im beuatifull and wouldnt change me for the world, he said he would love me to move in with him when im 16 and to tell my family but not untill im 16/17
im gonna get a pregnancy test 2morrow im real worried , im not exactly in the right relationship for a baby am i , do ya think i should tell him about or keep it to myself?
im just gonna leave it , he`ll soon get board of me , if i told my family he would b a dead man , and i dont want him to get hurt, its like what klo said i do think he loves me and thats the only way of showing it , i do love him but i know hes bad for me so i cant be with him , im just gonna have to keep it to myself , whatever happens , thanxs for the advise , you guys have really helped me .

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