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Hey everyone,
I signed up here just for this question, some suggestions, some support, anything. This is really painful for me and I can't seem to get answers that make sense.

I've been with my boyfriend for just over six months, we've been best friends for over a year and he liked me while he had his previous girlfriend. I felt pretty bad about that and tried to deny that he liked me, pushing away what I felt for him. Anyway, long story short 6 months after they broke up we started dating and hell, we were into each other. We ended up fooling around within days of our relationship and had sex before the first month ended. We both had some serious sex drives and were extremely curious and I still am. He is the only guy I've ever fallen in love with so it really hurts now that he doesn't ever really want or seem to want sex. It makes me question whether or not I'm appealing anymore, or that he'll cheat on me. I trust him with my life but if he won't even touch me it scares me. It's not like we don't have sex, but I mean, in the two weeks we spent together recently we had sex maybe 6 times... this is nothing for us. And I try, I do. I've done things I use to look down on (oral and the likes) and it use to work like a charm,but not anymore.
He was worried we were basing our relationship on sex and pulled back from me before and it hurt me badly then. So he ran back. I didn't think he'd do it again but now I don't know what to do. He said "the mystery and allure" is gone and I just about died. If there isn't any of that what the hell is left?
I don't understand his contradictions either, he tells me I'm sexy and beautiful all the time and hugs me and kisses me but when I try to take it farther he pulls back or says no. I just miss it. We've come a lot closer in the affection area, we snuggle but sometimes (well, all the time really) I want more. Or he'll tease me and say how bad he wants me and then goes to sleep. Or invites me into the shower and then nothing happens and I come out so confused.:(
And I found porn on his computer. I don't care about it, it's painful he'd rather look at them than me..I never saw him as the type to look at porn... but I guess I misjudged him.
I don't know what to do? Should I just give up? I've told him it really hurts me, that I found his porn, well..not porn, just pictures of naked girls:( and he said he felt horrible and that sometimes he's just not in the mood. If I can't turn him on, then what's left of our sex life? I can't believe this is happening. A month ago if you had said this would be happening I would have burst out laughing...
What is this? Does anyone else have this problem? If I'm sexy to him, why doesn't he want me?

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